but you already tried to make amends once two days after the argument and they wouldnt reconcile at that point. when should I try again? I really wanna try one more time, its been two weeks since the argument and I havent said a word to them or looked at them seeing as how they work right across the hall from me.
2006-06-28 15:58:50 · 9 answers · asked by miranda 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I think it should have worked for you the first time you tried to make amends but it sounds as though they weren't ready to hear an apology. Now that some significant time has passed, I would try apologizing again. If this person is still not receptive, tell them you would have liked to have worked this out and feel badly that it is going to be like this...then walk away - you will appear to be the bigger person...and if you're trying to make amends, you already are. Good luck.
2006-06-28 16:01:23 · answer #1 · answered by SBean_29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Start by stopping the cold shoulder act. Yes, you may be doing unintentionally, but realize that by not even looking at them is communicating "I am still mad at you".
Next, go over there or write a note of apologize. Be straight and to the point: "I am sorry Lisa. My action two weeks ago were inapproriate and wrong. I should have never said/done that you. What may I do to show you that I am sincerly apologetic?"
DO NOT make excuses for your behavoir or put the blame for the actions on them. (they may also be in the wrong, but at this point - and probably at no other point - you do not point that out them. Let thier conscious do that job).
Note the other party may say there is nothing you could do to make it up or tell you how much you hurt them, etc. Apoligize agian. And drop it. It takes people a while to work through all the emotions (especially anger). Also treat her normal (barring what it was that gat you all angry at each other in the first place) - greet her, speak to her in the hall, look at her. Eventually she will get over it and forgive you. After you apologize, the responsibility is hers to forgive.
2006-06-28 23:11:03 · answer #2 · answered by southerngirl0525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you were wrong apologize sincerely, if they were wrong tell them you forgive them and they should contact you when they are ready. you may not have given enough cool off time before the post argument contact. all you can do is let them know you are available and will wait til they are ready to talk about it.
2006-06-28 23:02:45 · answer #3 · answered by beaniefufer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
jus 4get t leave it alone for like 2 more weeks then try again if they dont go for it then jus say screw them and move on
2006-06-28 23:01:14 · answer #4 · answered by platinum_rem_remi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
write a letter, no matter how mad i've benn I've always read what she left me and if you write it you can look it over and make sure that you get to say exactly what you need to say. hell, do two drafts if you need to.
2006-06-28 23:03:49 · answer #5 · answered by dutch950 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've tried .. Don't sweat it. It's their loss. Besides, are they really worth it?
2006-06-28 23:02:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont push it if you have tried to amend it then you have done your part. walk away...
2006-06-28 23:00:46 · answer #7 · answered by luv41anatha 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try it and if it doesn't work out they really aren't your friend then because they can't forgive and forget
2006-06-28 23:03:09 · answer #8 · answered by googi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go take a dump
2006-06-28 23:01:12 · answer #9 · answered by shadow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋