How do you know if you love your man?

Question

well what if after 8 years the love is gone?

Answer 1

Everytime u see them and hear their voice u smile, and not a phony one that u put on for they could see, if u really love them a smile comes up when u dont know its there, and u keep ur eyes off him or nothing

Answer 2

The love after 8 years is pretty hard just to disappear and poof go into the air. I don't mean to sound all dr. Phil but maybe you just need some "spice" try to find sumthing that will turns things up or... ask him if he thinks the love is gone; ask him what's going on do we still feel the same feelings we've had for the past 8 years or are we getting bored of each other; try to go back to the day when you first started feeling this feeling of not loving and ask why how did this start. You don't want to end a love of 8 years or else it would have truly been a complete waste of your life.

Answer 3

Ask yourself, "Why do I love this man?" If you have an answer, then maybe you don't really love him. For example, if you say, "I love him because he is tall"; or you say,"Because he has a wonderful job and is a great provider," then maybe you don't love him, you love something about him. How would you feel if that something changed; he lost his job? Would you continue to love him?

If your answer is something like, "I don't know, I just do." Then possibly it is love. When it is the essence of a person that attracts you, then you know that you are on the right track. Ask yourself, do you love who he is, and what he stands for; those non-tangible qualities.

Can you say, "He is my passion", and really mean it. Can you feel him inside your being? As you watch him walk across a room to greet you, are you moved and overwhelmed with emotion. When you think of him, do you become impatient to see him again.

Does being with this man motivate you to be your best and do your best? Not because you need to please him, but because being with him makes you feel good about who you are.

I once heard Dr. Dobson say to his listeners, "Marry the one you cannot live without. Don't marry the one you can [live without].

If you can say, "I can take him or leave him," then you probably should [leave him that is].

If you want to know love, read the love letters of Abelard and Heloise. Heloise's love for Abelard is the purest love I have ever heard about or read about. (With the exception of Christ)

Lastly, if you must ask the question, I think you already know the answer. An old boyfriend once asked me, "Do you love me?" My answer was,"I don't know." He then said, "If you did, you would know. Therefore, you don't [love me]." He was right. After 5 years of dating, I just didn't know how to say, "No, I didn't."

Of faith, hope and love, these three; love is the greatest.

May you find the courage and strength to seek true abiding love.

Answer 4

i think when you gave evrything on him...you would rather do evrything he wanted and you always care for him..but after that 8 years as you said the love has gone so you should tell him the truth and find the real man for you, you deserve to be happy...thats it! just follow what you think is right, then when it goes wrong be thankful because that wrong decisions made you more stronger! remember nobody's perfect right?

Answer 5

You don't know if you love someone, you do it. Love is not a feeling contrary to popular belief. Love is a choice. You either love him, or you don't. It doesn't whittle away like a feather on water. Love is a choice, just like what you want to wear. If you don't love him anymore, then don't drag him through the dirt. But if you do, you need to tell him that things need to change. Always keep your loved one in the know with you.

Answer 6

If you're scared of him dying.

You may want to leave him, you may want to cheat on him. you may say he only brings you grief.

I found out I really love my husband because I wouldn't mind if we got divorced, but if he died, I just wouldn't be able to cope.

Answer 7

if you are asking, maybe its time to get a therapist and fix it, or get out

Answer 8

you just ... do.