How do I help him heal? His family is racist (kinda)?

Question

My man's family has 3 son's and he's the baby. The oldest married a Jew and had a baby, the middle married a Mexican and had 2 children, then he made a Chinese son which his family even excepted. I'm from a PR and a red-bone and from NYC. They disowned him when they found out I was pregnant claiming that he ruined thier white family. How can I help him to heal against this kind of evil and selectively racist family? They are a sad group :^(

Answer 1

I think you have everything on the inside of you to make it work and to console him. You may never be the favorite new family member, but you are God's child and He loves you unconditionally. You are dealing with ignorance. Just be a light that shines and be proud of who you are. For your sweetheart, just give him and your baby all of your love and that will strengthen and heal him. His family may or may not come around but it is surely their loss and not his or yours.

Answer 2

i hate to say it , but you have to be willing to see if he will separate a bit more from his family.

racism is all over the earth

you cannot change an entire family
they will drive you mad trying

but you can change yr feelings and ignore their racist and spiteful comments.

dont go to his family affairs
dont show up to anything of his family's
explain to him how hurt you are
and how these , his family is doing, is interfering with you two.

Sometimes some families just have to find something to b...h about.

Personally I would stop going to family anything.
They will get the hint and if they want their son back they will hve to make amends with you.