My husband lied to me about so many things. Some of them were pretty important like his last name changes over the years. His other lies were about random stuff that was not too big of a deal. I am not sure of what to do from now. He has never been too open about his past and i've had to be ok with it. I had learned to accept it, but now i just dont know how to rebuild my relationship with him. Lies has always been a big issue with me, i really cannot take lies, but i love him. We have only been married a couple months and now i am finding all this out. any advice is greatly appreciated.
2006-06-28 15:40:28 · 17 answers · asked by estefany v 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Really if your relationship was built on lies and now the lies are uncovered,, there isn't much of a relationship only a fantasy you built around this guy.
Get into therapy,, and sort it out,, that is the fastest way to figure out how to go from here.
2006-06-28 15:44:48 · answer #1 · answered by yeller 6 · 7⤊ 0⤋
That's a scary thought. Maybe he really isn't who he says he is,
I would do some heavy investigation on my own. God only knows what else he could be lying about. You are in a bad situation and maybe even a dangerous one.
I almost married a man like this hopefully it isn't the same one..Because he seemed normal but after I started uncovering alot of his lies, I found out what he was really about.
He was a con-artist with and a rap sheet as wide as Texas.
My advise to you would be...Please never let your guards down..
And be very careful. I'm not saying that he is anything like this however you've only been married for a couple of months.
Good Luck and I wish you well
2006-06-28 15:57:37 · answer #2 · answered by jttatum2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being truthful to eachother is the first thing. You should be his best friend not just his wife. That means he should be able to talk about his past with you regardless of what happend in it. That's just how things work. Lies pull people apart. The more lies the farther you are from that person emotionally. If he can't be honest about small things what else can he lie about and be ok with hidding. Lies just don't work in any type of relationship. Just make sure he will tell you the truth and that he is ready to open up to you as not just his wife but his best friend as well.
2006-06-28 15:46:40 · answer #3 · answered by lizzy_bear_2006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well did he really lie to u about his name or did the topic never come up? i guess i would try to get to the bottom of it and let eachother know that you dont want any games. marraige is based on love and trust, if you dont have the trust part, then marraige wont last solely based on love. i dont know how long youve known him, i cannot really give you advice on what to do if i was in your situation, cause i dont know him. but people do need to be forgiven and given second chances sometimes, i guess if you love him and you think you can trust him, maybe you should both go talk to someone and work on it. but like the others said, dont have any kids right away, i would see how this works out first befored children get involved, that could get ugly. on the other hand, people arent always what they sometimes appear to be, i would be concerned enough to think about whether or not its worth staying. but if you choose to start over, start from scratch, put the past behind you.
2006-06-28 15:51:18 · answer #4 · answered by loveboatcaptain 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My one year anniversary is July 4th. I have the exact same situation. Be prepared...the lies will keep coming out. I am sorry I married this man. Talking to a liar is more frustrating than chronic silence. The more times they get busted, the more they turn into some kind of a saint. Don't put yourself through the emotional turmoil of it!
2006-06-29 00:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't build a foundation for a relationship out of lies. Get out now, he obviously isn't worth the time.
2006-06-28 15:57:38 · answer #6 · answered by tinydancer42001 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you're saying you probably did no longer cheat yet mendacity is cheating - perchance you probably did no longer cheat sexually yet you have nonetheless betrayed your female buddy by way of mendacity to her. Why you probably did it fairly is not any longer sparkling.... what's she saying to you? Does she sense she would be able to have faith you lower back? it fairly is not any longer some thing magic which you would be able to repair in a count of weeks. have faith can take a protracted time to construct and it's going to purely ensue by using your strikes over the years so do no longer assume to have all of it appeared after on your anniversary. teach her by using strikes how sorry you're and in time she could have faith you lower back. it is going to likely be as much as her besides the fact that if or no longer she feels waiting to try this. My husband lied to me approximately funds and that i nonetheless do no longer have faith him, not sure I ever will with funds yet he has complied with my requests for statements and placed issues in my call. it is not black and white so reliable success to you! desire you have learnt a powerful lesson.
2016-12-14 03:08:35 · answer #7 · answered by nella 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okey to the mere fact u've learned to accept all his lies and to the fact you loved him.I think u have to forget and forgivefor which he lied cuz he dont want to hurt you.anyway u'd been married for a couple month try to talk to him about those matters.and still after a more couple months his still keep doin it then u decide for yourself and be brave to face and accept the consequences.
2006-06-28 16:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by nadine c 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When a storm comes in and knocks down your house, you don't rebuild it with the old materials. You dispose of them and start over with all new materials.
2006-06-28 15:46:25 · answer #9 · answered by lunatic 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You may wanna sit down with him and have a heart to heart conversation. Let him know this matters in the relationship.
2006-06-28 15:44:58 · answer #10 · answered by microsvc 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋