One of my friends asked me for help. Since I care about the person, I spent hours and hours assisting her. Instead of thanking me, she went behind my back and got help somewhere else. Hours and hours wasted. Am I overreacting? Please advise. Thanks.
2006-06-28 15:28:28 · 12 answers · asked by smithmd99_99 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I didn't want anything in return, but I felt really bad that she would ignore that fact that I helped her. I put a lot of effort and energy in sovling the situation. I didn't sleep trying to solve the probelm and she left my hanging.
2006-06-28 15:36:55 · update #1
what were you expecting in return? you say you 'wasted' your time? you were being a friend....listening is part of being a friend.
2006-06-28 15:34:06 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sadly sometimes this does happen and has happened to me as well so yeah I can relate. I know right now your upset and feel used but you must keep one thing in mind you tried and you did so without any reward and your heart was in the right place. And although the world can be a bitter pill to swallow at times it is the good deeds (which mostly are left un-noticed) that equals things out. I don't think your over-reacting at all but just dont let it deter you from being this great person that you are.
2006-06-29 07:30:14 · answer #2 · answered by Savage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was the help she got elsewhere different to that which you offered her ? If so , she simply found what she needed . If not maybe she just thought 3 heads were better than 1. Did she deliberately cut you out ? Are you glad she found the help she needed or sorry that she took away your chance to be a hero ? Or is your instinct telling you that she indulged herself at your expense and wasn't as upset as she first appeared . Be grateful to her . You will learn from this experience - the next time you will KNOW if real help is required when someone asks and you will know how to and from whom to ask help should you ever need it . You have a big heart . Keep it and your eyes open . Good luck .
2006-06-28 15:56:16 · answer #3 · answered by Grace Pearl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well it was quite nice of u to help out a frend n i tink if u spent so much time she shud at least say tank u. as for her going somewhere else well probably she just didnt wanna hurt u by telling u dat ur answer to the situation was good enough or something. don't get mad for dis part, but as for d part of her not saying tanx, i tink dat was not polite nor showing any gratitude to a frend watsoever.
2006-06-28 16:07:25 · answer #4 · answered by skinny_cristy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You tried to help a friend, so that was a good thing. Sorry you spent so much time and she did not allow you to help her after all that time. Don't let this keep you from helping others. Good luck.
2006-06-28 15:37:05 · answer #5 · answered by tigerprincess_bee 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe she should have thanked you but that is her bad not yours. But when you say she went behind your back I don't get that. Is she not allowed to choose what she felt benefited her the most. I get that you feel used but if you are really friends you shouldn't feel that way. That's what friends do for one another.Sometimes its annoying but you do it cuz you love them.
2006-06-28 15:41:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no that would pis me off to i spend hrs of wrk with some1 then they go adn get help from some1 else if u ask me (which u did) u didnt overreact enough but it also seems like u was xpecting to get somethign back from her ( meaning that u like her in case u didnt kno) tell her off go kinda evil >:)
2006-06-28 15:38:11 · answer #7 · answered by platinum_rem_remi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Feel good you did a good deed.
2006-06-28 15:32:26 · answer #8 · answered by doc_is 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont be so fast to help next time
2006-06-28 15:35:39 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no its an insult to you , i think you have every right to feel hurt
2006-06-28 15:34:23 · answer #10 · answered by jojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋