Am I a crazy girl?

Question

Today my husband & I got into an argument. Basically the whole thing was blown out of proportion and he became more upset with me because I started to ignore him. Is that normal to not want to talk about things?

Answer 1

The next time you and your hubby are on talking terms and everything is ok, communicate a little about your anger styles and what should happen in an argument. You could say, "When I get too angry I need a time out to go calm down." Then agree when one person calls a time-out, both of you will go to separate rooms or something. Or, "If I get too upset I cannot talk about it anymore. Let's agree what we will do when this happens." Eventually, however, you must be able to productively talk about the argument. Set down some rules like this and arguments will become more productive.

Answer 2

If you were ignoring him as a way to fuel the fire, then I would say that was wrong of you.

But perhaps you are "non-confrontational", meaning you prefer things to be quiet and calm. Perhaps this is why you ignored him. He needs to understand the difference as well and why you acted the way you did. Many people are uncomfortable about yelling and screaming because it had frightened them when they were younger and watched others behave this way.

Everyone has the right to discuss, and everyone has the right to disagree, but nobody has the right to be disrespectful. That only makes things worse.

Be the first to appologize this time and put it behind you. Don't get 'historical'....that is, don't bring up the past and throw it in his face. He should do the same.

Generally, people argue because they cannot communicate on the same level.

Answer 3

Men need to back off when it gets hot and heavy. We all know that you men are bigger and stronger than us. So why "PUFF UP" and make yourselves seem bigger. Anyway, not wanting to talk about it is quite normal. Especially when things get blown out of proportion. It's better to wait a while and talk when both of you are rational.

Answer 4

First, learn how to argue. A shouting match is nonproductive, and no issues are ever resolved. It takes skill to become proficient at letting the other persons know what your concerns are. Learn how by reading "The Assertive Option" an old book, in paperback, but the bible for negotiating. Get it cheap on Amazon.com in paperback -- worth every penny....

Answer 5

Yes it is very common, from both husbands and wives. But do not do it, it is a dangerous game. Gradually it will have less and less effect on him and he will learn to do the same.

Give your best to your marriage. There are no tricks and happiness is indivisible.
I speak with experience of divorce.

Answer 6

It's not a good idea if you want to stay married. If you don't talk about whatever it is, it'll keep happening and then you have a much bigger problem. Talking about it doesn't mean arguing it means he says something while you listen and then you say something while he listens. You'll be married a long time if you learn to talk to each other. Good Luck

Answer 7

Yes it's normal. I clam up if we start to argue. He likes to yell or talk loudly and I just tell him if we can't discuss this in a normal tone of voice and act like adults I'm not talking to him and I leave.

Answer 8

Yes it is normal my husband gets mad at me all the time and doesn't speak to me for days its a guilt thing sometimes I enjoy it when doesn't speak to me

Answer 9

If you have a problem, it wont get resolved unless you both communicate with each other. It will only fester and cause hard feelings. Talk with him.

Answer 10

My husband does that to me i hate that i love talking things out. why go to sleep at night mad at each other, never know if you'll wake up or not.