My husband does not kiss me, hug me tell me he loves me. He pays little attention to me. OUr son on the other hand he is the opposite over. When we first got together it was inseperable. Now I feel trapped in this relationship that is very lonely. He pays me attention only when he needs a favor than he is gone again and I am junk. so now I refuse this all together and I am a b####. I feel used and not wanted for other than his needs and wants. I am sorry I have needs too and that is too bad. Course I am being a baby for crying myself to sleep. This entire relationship is a bummer. I have been married to him for 8 years now and it gets colder and colder. wouldn't you feel used? I take care of the children, do the house work, he has a hot dinner in the microwave everynight when he gets home, I also work fulltime out of the house and do volunteer work when called upon by the ambulance. I did the ambulance to get out of the house. He hates me for it.
2006-06-28 14:10:19 · 8 answers · asked by stellaM 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very unappreciated!!!
2006-06-28 14:13:40 · answer #1 · answered by Vav 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to open the communication up and start being honest with eachother about how you feel and whats going on in your marriage. Getting into counseling asap would probably be your best bet for getting your marriage and your relationship back with your husband.
Keep in mind that at one time you were in love with him and you married him for a reason. That man you married is still there - but it would seem that both of you are just on different pages, which could be due to a lot of different things. A counselor can help you both work through how you are feeling and what got you both to this point.
2006-06-28 14:16:18 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he may just want you home with him more. Some men when they feel hurt retreat and go cold and silent. Sit down with him and ask what would make him happy in your marriage. Meet his needs first and then he will meet yours next I promise. Always welcome him with a smile when he comes home from work. Men like to have their wife around when they get home from work
2006-06-28 14:17:04 · answer #3 · answered by Wendy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel so sad for you. Try getting counseling together. Try getting away where it's just meant for the two of you to spend time alone
2006-06-28 14:15:46 · answer #4 · answered by ladylike 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think I would be able to live like that. When someone love you they should think of your happiness befroe their own. They should want to make you feel better about yourself rather than worse. Would he consider counseling?
2006-06-28 14:17:18 · answer #5 · answered by #3ontheway! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to go to counseling...both of you, if possible....have you tried discussing it with him in a calm way? If you attack him about it, he will get defensive......
2006-06-28 14:39:58 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
mabe you should try to spice things up do your self up a little remind him of the women he feel in love with.
2006-06-28 14:29:56 · answer #7 · answered by casandra m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get rid of him, you do not need emotional baggage, mental stress or verbal abuse..we all need to be love and if he is not willing to give it, then get it from some one else
2006-06-28 14:17:22 · answer #8 · answered by davionmw 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋