My friend is dating this guy who has to smoke 1 marijuanna joint daily and downs about a case a beer every weekend. On all outward appearances - he seems to be a really nice and smart guy - he has a nice job, truck, his own place and he treats her really nice. Not to mention he has 2 small kids with someone. However, the drug and alcohol are an issue for me. I'm trying to make her see it's not normal. What do you think? My friend is very successful - she has her own business, built a huge house in the suburbs, drives a luxury car and makes alot of money. I mean the answer is obvious. Does this guy need to go to rehab or am I just over reacting.
2006-06-28 14:08:56 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
The case of beer a weekend...assuming that Friday, Saturday, and Sunday are included...averages out to be a bit too much. I don't realy think that the one joint a day is so bad, a lot of people do that just to wind down. If he is doing the two together, then he definately has an issue. He probably has some depression or anxiety problems that he is trying to self medicate. By the way, I have a couple of people in my immediate family who are alcoholics, so I know a little about this. You also have to remember though that you don't want to push your friend away, and in the long run, it will have to be him that chooses to go to rehab for himself. If he really has a problem, he will not take care of the problem because someone else wants him to do it. It won't work. He will have to choose to do it for himself. Hope that helps.
2006-06-28 14:18:30 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Did you say your boyfriend or hers? How about it's really not your business. Yes, drugs and alchohol are bad, but you can't see the world through her eyes. Any decisions/mistakes she makes will be her own. If you get in her business she may recent you. So if you don't want to lose a friend, back off. If she comes to you about it, then and only then should you voice an opinion. Sometimes people know they are dating they wrong person, but they don't want to hear it. They want to live for the moment and worry about the consequences later, she is being no different. All you can do is just be a supportive friend.
2006-06-28 21:21:25 · answer #2 · answered by Dancer3d 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people in to drugs and drinking can be great actors also. The amount of time they have been doing this increases the ability to hide the issues it produces. He has been drinking and doing pot for some time to be able to do as you say. But it is to much for anyone and the need for more will come, I'm sure he started with just a six pack a weekend and a Bag a month. You are right to be leery
2006-06-28 21:16:36 · answer #3 · answered by tc_an_american 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he has to smoke a joint every day then he's addicted and thats a problem. Him drinking beer on the weekends doesn't make him an alcoholic, that isn't a big issue in my opinion.
She should realize that smoking pot on a daily basis isn't a normal activity for most people - and it certainly isn't a legal one. She should really consider how this will affect her life and if she wants to be involved with someone who is addicted to pot.
2006-06-28 21:13:12 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend is a ******* moron and her man is obviously a drug addict loser. The fact that he "has 2 small kids with someone" yet is off with your friend rather than beind a husband and father, is one of the biggest and most reliable signs of an unacceptably low quality guy. If this is the type of man your friend wants, that makes her a loser too.
Let me ask you something. Do you REALLY want people like this in your life?
2006-06-28 21:14:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well interesting question, i am recovering drug and alcohol user and i sure did alot more than that guy but if he only drinks on the weekend and only smokes a joint a day i gonna go with no. even though he drinks a case of beer to himself...just watch him and see if it progresses.
2006-06-28 21:13:20 · answer #6 · answered by Cindy G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, if your friend really likes this guy, nothing you say can change her mind. Secondly, a joint is nothing, and a case of beer is fairly normal. He sounds normal to me.
2006-06-28 21:13:33 · answer #7 · answered by LSD 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats all hes doing then i would say that it is normal!! If all he smokes is a joint a day then i wouldnt worry ... i have friends that due worse. as long as he treats your friend well and it doesnt interrupt how he functions then i say lrt it go
2006-06-28 21:27:04 · answer #8 · answered by tiffany b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your friend is as smart as you say she is she will tire of his drug addicted ways and dump him. You,as a friend ,can be a friend to her by not criticizing him in front of her or frowning on the relationship.She will ask for your opinion when she needs it. Until then ,be her friend,and try to hold your tongue on this one and you will thank yourself for not interfering .
2006-06-28 21:39:42 · answer #9 · answered by tattiehoker54 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well sweetie you seem jealous. He is doing very well with what he does. Enjoying life and getting things done too. one joint is nother really. drinking on the weekend is really smart .
2006-06-28 21:12:06 · answer #10 · answered by nastaany1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋