My mom died and I hurt extremely, how do I feel normal again and when?

Question

my mom died just a month ago, I am trying to deal but every morning when I wake I am saddend, I will be ok durring the day and suddendly I am saddend and begin to cry from nowhere, I feel as my life as somehow ended, my mom was my entire world as we did everything together, I have 4 kids that were also extremely close, everything we did always involved my mom such as vacations, just everyday life, we saw each other daily, talked on the phone daily and even worked in the same place, she was always at my house or us at hers, Now I can't stand to go home from work as I used to recieve a phone call as soon as I walked in the door, "hi honey how was your day?" now no calls, I call her machine just to hear her voice I want to talk to her so badly, I miss her so much, there are so many important events we need her for, she was there for everything for our family, How can I be the strong one, I am not the one as my mom was the one to turn to she knew everything about everything, I am so lonely

Answer 1

I too have lost my mom and it is hard especially when it came to routines. Try honoring her in a small way everyday. Maybe it is listening to her favorite song on the car ride home or going for a walk when you get home to clear your mind. Writing a journal is also a good way to help work through your grief. It's hard and things will not be the same. It will take time for you to get used to her being gone but that does not mean she is forgotten or that you do not think about her. I still after 7 years think about her quite often. As time has past the memories have become less painful and truly a blessing.

Also think about joining a grief group, plan something fun with friends or your husband (if your married). Getting out and trying new things will help make this difficult time a little less overwhelming and you will not feel so lonely.

Motherless Daughters was a book that I read that sort help me work through everything.

Answer 2

I am very sorry about your loss. When we love someone, we never want to see them leave us. Either by dying or any other way. We feel hurt that they are gone, and now we are left here to carry on. Sometimes it feels like we just can't, like we should have died too, or like a piece of us has died.
Crying out loud, where nobody can hear you, making your nose get all stuffed up, and making your eyes all red, sometimes really helps. Your emotions are really strong, and unfortunatly, we keep them in far too much.
It's really not good for you. But we do it anyways.
Longing for a continued relationship with those we love is a strong desire, but we all know we aren't gonna live forever. Some people die as kids, and some as old folk. Some die of lingering diseases, and some instantly.
But something we all should realize, is that when we meet someone, and get to know them, and they enrich our lives, no matter how insignificantly, we should consider ourselves lucky, and a better person for knowing them.

Answer 3

I'm sorry for your loss.I can relate I dont think you ever get over
it but trust me each day will get a little easier.There are also
groups you can meet with who are mourning as well over the loss
of a loved one.It helps to talk about your feelings.Hope you will find
comfort.

Answer 4

i can only imagine what your going through, me and my mom have the same kind of realtionship. the only thing i can think of is how would your mom react to how your handeling her death. she'd most likely be upset, because your not living your life, your not enjoying her grandchildren. you have givin up on happiness. shed probally tell you to be happy with the memories, enjoy your life. i know if i passed i wouldnt want my kids to be sad all the time. id want them to go on with life and make me proud..... hope this helps

Answer 5

my mom just died june 24 and I am still numb,so if u find a way to go on,plz tell me!!

Answer 6

get out around familiar faces and try and have fun stop moping around that will make you ore sad

Answer 7

I'LL KEEP YOU LIFTED UP IN PRAYER , I WILL BE PRAYING FOR YOU AND YOUR FAMILY. I LOVE YOU WITH THE LOVE OF THE LORD .GOD BLESS!!!