Iam an Indian working singapore as IT Engg.I was married in 2001 and my wife is very shy she never expresses anything openly.but i loved her & immed after marriage she became pregnant and she went to her moms'house &i also joined her.When i saw my wife's sister i found she was like my dream girl.she possessed all qualites what i have in my dreams as wife.so i started loving her very much and she too loved me.but for which i never hated my wife ,i did everything to my wife and i was good to her too.i took her to all places.but my wife's sister after she got married told me that she never loved me at all but only acted for her sister's sake that my wife was facing some problems due to my sisters.this was real shock to me,becoz i loved her so much.so now i hate everyone and i want to leave my wife also and divorce her and now she also came to know that i loved her sister.but still she is not giving divorce she says she loves me very much.i feel she says only for money how to divorce
2006-06-28 13:19:11 · 6 answers · asked by happy_01 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Amen to daveowenville!
Tread carefully when considering divorce. Are you still in another country? I don't know what Singapore's laws on marriage are like so you best get to studying up on those. Get to know what your legal options are. Can you really be sure that her sister was telling you the truth? Communication is really key. Look into what is going on and find out the facts before you make a big decision like this than "can" wreck lives.
2006-06-28 13:32:57 · answer #1 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First: do not punish your wife because of the sins of her sister.
Second: if you married this woman because you loved her, try to rekindle that love -- and only seek a divorce if you are unable to regain your affection and trust. Seek your wife's help in this; if you don't trust her love for you, let her help you figure out why. Talk.
Third: you have a child, and regardless of how you feel about your wife, you need to love and care for your child. No matter how bad you think the situation is, your child needs you, and you shouldn't seek to escape him/her.
Finally: if you still elect to have a divorce, focus on (a) making sure your child is provided for, either by getting custody or by setting up generous child support, and (b) making the divorce quick and painless for all concerned. Divorces too often are, but should never ever be, about revenge.
2006-06-28 13:26:52 · answer #2 · answered by daveowenville 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is some mess you got yourself in too . One thing for sure you definitely don't desire her . How could you disrespect your wife like that and her sister on top of that . You should haven't married someone if they is not the right person for you .
2006-06-28 13:37:12 · answer #3 · answered by dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The 3 of you should sit down together and have a very respectful, quiet, polite, no-holds-barred conversation.
Can the 3 of you be honest?
2006-06-28 13:29:42 · answer #4 · answered by Uncle Thesis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move to texas and wait six months then divorce the ***** texas has a no fault clause which means you can divorce her just because you changed your mind
2006-06-28 13:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by XILD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do your wife and your sister in law a favor......move far far away from both of them.
2006-06-28 13:22:42 · answer #6 · answered by Backwoods Barbie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋