I have been married for 4 years to a man who is 10 years younger that me. Sex was good in the beginning and has gotten less and less over the years. It is down to mabey if I am lucky once a month. He has no trouble getting an erection in fact he tries to hide them from me. When I get undressed he turns around. What is going on?
2006-06-28
13:11:24
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He does not like the spicy stuff that goes along with sex. He does not want to talk about it, think about it or anything else to do with it. When I ask or even beg he gets mad. But every day more than once he says that he loves me.
2006-06-28
13:19:35 ·
update #1
I doubt that he is cheating on me but 2 years ago I cheated on him and got caught. But the sex was bad way back then. Thats why I cheated. I really do not want to go that route again. I have a 13 year old so to think about. But I am very lonley
2006-06-28
13:22:41 ·
update #2
I have tried to talk to him about this and he wont discuss it. It makes him mad when I bring it up. He has been sheeping on the couch for well over a year now.
2006-06-28
13:24:15 ·
update #3
get some porn dress sexy
2006-06-28 13:15:42
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answered by cliff b 2
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a ten year difference in that direction is seldom a good thing - men are very visually stimulated and that so often can come in the form of fitness and youth.
this is the reason so many men are with younger women - or leave their lover or wife for a younger woman. Its the ugly truth, but there is no denying that it happens all the time.
I have no way of knowing how you are keeping yourself up and don't care but - fitness may be the key. Exercise is a good thing no matter what anyway so there is no losing (other than a few unwanted pounds)
There are exceptions I realize but this is the general truth.
2006-06-28 13:31:49
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answered by drewwers 3
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He might not be attracted to you anymore. R he could be cheating with another women. My thing is if he turns his head when you enter the room in your birthday suite and don't reacted but get an erection, yes there is a big problem with that picture. You guys been married for 4 years come on now! Then to top it all off he is 10 years younger. HE IS A LOSER!!!!!!!!
2006-06-28 13:26:18
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answered by Anonymous
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You need to sit down and take inventory of everything happening in the relationship. I was married for 8 years and had been with him for almost 13 when this happened to me. It got to the point that we didnt even sleep in the same room, and come to find out he had been cheating on me for several years, just keep your eyes and ears open to changes in his behavior other than in the bedroom, if he wont leave his cell phone around you and doesnt want you looking in it start looking for more clues. Just prepare yourself for what you may find it may not be something that you are looking forward too.
2006-06-28 13:19:17
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answered by quincie1975 2
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What does he say when you ask him? He may have met someone else, or may be having sexual identity conflicts. I would ask him what's going on and suggest marital counseling. If he refuses on both fronts, a more aggressive approach would be to hire a private detective or even ask for a separation. You don't have to do anything until you're ready and you'll know when the time is right! Good Luck!
The Counselor
2006-06-28 13:18:25
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answered by The Counselor 1
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He is a confused gay man. I have seen it before. They marry women as a front but screw men behind your back. girl watch out if all he is saying I love you and no eating and love making he is making it with a man somewhere. Is he a pretty boy? Does he spend more time with the boys then you? Check his under ware for turkey tracks that's another sign someone is riding his rear. Last but not least buy yourself a big fat dildo and masturbate in the bed next to him every night and see what he does!
2006-06-28 13:24:33
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answered by Lil Me 2
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I think he might be having a affair on you. He is 10 years younger than you he might want a young chick . If he doesnt get sex from you then he is getting it from someone else somewhere else .
2006-06-28 13:18:31
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answered by Sexy Smoochie? 2
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Man, If I wasn't real religous. O.K. you need to talk to your husband if you're having problems. Ask him what is it that he misses that you used to do for him when we used to be intimate all the time. He'll come around if you talk to him and be patient, and pray to God that things get better in your marriage prayer helps.
2006-06-28 13:18:45
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answered by Shawn J 2
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you need to discuss this and realize counseling is a possibility. Him cheating on you is also a possibility. Has your appearance changed drastically? I know my woman knows that we both need to work at keeping ourselves desireable to each other.
2006-06-28 13:20:07
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answered by Anonymous
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He might be cheating on you or has simply lost interest, but most likely the first.
2006-06-28 13:14:50
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answered by Anonymous
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Sorry to say this, but it sounds like he is no longer attracted to you or he has someone else. Sit him down and demand to know what his problem is.
2006-06-28 13:19:23
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answered by New York Mama 3
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