Am I too young to have my baby???

Question

my guy and i have already planned this out ... if i get pregnant in july i can give birth to my baby in april right befor my senior prom. but i am a varsity cheerleader and i have alot going for me... should i wait until i am about 20 to do this or do you think i can handle it????

Answer 1

definatly wait!!!! This is your senior year. You will only have one senior year. After this your world is one big blob! Enjoy yourself while you are young. If you still want a baby when you are a couple of years older! Go for it! Yeah you might have a baby & it might be cute...but just think feedings/getting fat/breasts HURTING! Not to mention the vagina pain!!! PLEASE DO NOT DO THIS WITH OUT THINKING IT THRU THOROUGHLY!

Answer 2

If I was in your shoes I'd wait. Do your graduation the right way! Not with a baby on your hip. There is plenty of time for kids.
Are you too young? No but I feel you will lose alot if you have a child now. My god your in cheerleading!! You say yourself you have alot going for yourself!!
Before the baby friends ALL say they will help. As soon as the baby comes your friends will start dissapearing like cockroaches with the lights on!! Good friends will be hard to find. They will be out doing kid things and If your a good mom you will be stuck at home waiting for someone to call and let you know who was at the party and what happened. You can also kiss your figure good-bye. If you and your man REALLY thought this out you would get married first. Go to college. Then get a baby.
I am 28. I have two boys. 9 and 11. Do the math. I missed prom because my son was sick. I had to drop out of school because I didn't have a babysitter. I lost friends that didn't want to grow up. I was forced to grow up...FAST!! There are many new bills that will be coming your way!!
Before my boys I was on the honor roll. I played many sports, band, and choir. Now when I get a job no one cares about what you did in high school. They want to know what I did in college and what I have been doing. I am now in college cause it makes no sense when I tell my kids how important school is.
Just think about it. Having a child sounds easier than it is!! God bless the moms that make it look so damn easy!!

Answer 3

You should wait. I have so many friends that got pregnant, by accident, right before our senior year. I did, but I miscarried. If you do get pregnant, you wont be able to go to your prom. You wont fit in the dress, and lets not talk about affording one. I was a varsity cheerleader, and that went down the drain the day I found out I was pregnant. I couldn't be the flyer anymore, and it wasn't safe for me to be on the field. You can handle it, people do it every day, but do you really want to give up your whole senior year. The senior trip woould be gone, prom gone, you senior year of cheering gone. Evrything that people really look forward to their senior year would either be gone, or really hard for you to do. You may not even be able to finish school if you get really ill during the pregnancy. Also, college would be really hard with a baby. Without an amazing amount of parental support, one of you wouldn'y be able to go to college. Dont plan the pregnancy, if it happens, it happens, and if it doesn't, it just doesn't. Good Luck!!

Answer 4

I believe that you are, it seems that you have a lot going for you, if you have a baby you may regret it because you will miss out on a lot of things highschool students are involved in. May I ask why you want to have a baby at such a young age. Honestly you should think of the baby would you be able to give the baby everything that it needs and wants if you do not finish school, and will you possible be able to finish school, trying to meet the needs that the baby has. I tink that you should wait. Are you married to you guy, not to make him seem like a bad person but how do you know he wont run in the other direction once you have the baby. I think that it is your desicion, and I think that it is smart to be asking questions before doing something. You should try to get as much education as you can before having a child because afterwards it will be very difficult to continue with school. Good luck!

Answer 5

I think you should wait. There's no gurantee that you guys will be together in a year. If you wait till you have a JOB or he has a Job and Im not talkin about the GAP or Burger king. You'll be doing your baby a favor. Sure you can buy diapers and cloths. But what about that extra stuff that are luxiaries. It can get expensive. From 18tomaybe26 will be the best years of your life. You are learning about yourself and the world. Are you going to college? Are you guys thinking about marrige. Take it slow, a baby changes things( and people). You still have alot of maturing to do and so does your boyfriend. Enjoy your youthful figure a few more years with out the stretch marks. Babies are a blessing and it's easy to look at one and say I want a baby. But you can enjoy your blessing even more, when you're prepared.

Answer 6

Please wait. As someone who's been there, you're better off waiting a few years. I had my oldest when I was 18, 3 months before graduation. I don't regret her at all. Just know that things are a lot harder to accomplish when you have a baby. You probably wont be able to go to college until later on in life. I'll be nearly 22 before I'm able to go back. My fiance had a decent job when I got pregnant. If it weren't for that, we'd have ended up on welfare. You have many years of life ahead of you; don't throw it away. A child is the best gift anyone could ask for. It's easier when you are in a good financial situation, and are physically and emotionally ready for a child. I ended up being on bed-rest the last 4 months of my pregnancy. I had toxemia and gained 100 pounds because of it. Do you know how hot I looked weighing 227? I didn't look very good at all. Don't forget, you are most fertile after you have a baby. That's why I now have 2. My girls are 51 weeks apart, both conceived on birth control. Go to college, have fun, party, let loose before you have a baby because once you do, that all ends. I don't regret my kids at all, but let me tell you it's not easy at all

Answer 7

If you are old enough to get pregnant, then you are old enough to handle a baby, biologically speaking. All of the age restrictions came about after education became mandatory. Now, as to the question of whether you should, you have a good 25 years ahead of you during which you will be able to create a child. What else do you want to do with your life and where will a child fit into this. Will your boyfriend be there for the child always and can you support a child financially and emotionally, when you can answer yes to all of these questions then you are ready. My hubby and I had children early, I was 19 with my first and 20 with my second, I am now 23 and we are planning on trying for one more at the beginning of next year. My hubby has a stable job and he works while I stay home with my babies, when my youngest is old enough for preschool I will be starting medical school to become an obgyn. It all depends on prioritities and capability I wanted a family first and a career second and my hubby was able to support me in that.

Answer 8

You should wait. Enjoy your teen years and the cheerleading and the prom. What if you couldn't find a babysitter for prom night? And a low cut prom dress won't hid the stretch marks on your boobs that often come with having a baby!

Seriously though, wait until you've had a chance to do a lot of fun and crazy stuff before settling down to being a mom. Babies are demanding. I had my son when I was 21 and sometimes I think that was too young.

Answer 9

Wait until you are out of school, and have a job (preferably with health care and, if you are lucky, maternity leave) and a home for your child before you plan to get pregnant. Why make your life and your future childs life more difficult than it needs to be?

Its not a matter of just "handling it", raising a child is a lot more than that. You can "handle" a bad grade, a flat tire, an outrageous bill. You raise a child.

If you and your man are committed to each other enough to want a baby, then you obviously plan to stay together for a long time. Whats the rush?

Please wait. You'll be much happier if you do, and so will your future child!

Answer 10

Wait til you are out of school. You need that time to think about your life and you won't want to stay home with a baby instead of going to football games and prom. If you are a cheerleader why give all that up for a baby that you are planning to have. Wait...you be glad you did.

Answer 11

I hope this question is a joke. Anyone who really thinks they have a lot going for them would never honestly need to ask strangers if they should get pregnant and have a baby their senior year of high school.
Quick question......how much do you get paid to be a senior at your high school?
Just having a baby can cost up to $20,000 and that is if every thing goes great. Babies use about $550.00 a year in diapers , $1250.00 the first year for formula , not to mention baby food when they start solids , clothing , child care , car seat , crib , high chair ..........
Does varsity chearleading pay that much and does it offer maternity leave? I don't see them keeping you on the squad when you are pregnant.