see i still dont have my licence i am 25 years old and it has been very difficult to get help out of hubby he wont even let me go up and try, it makes me feel like a little kid adn controlled i want to at least be able to do things on my own he dosent understand, him and i have hardley any time to gether alone. i have to rely on him and then he compalins because he seemily says he has to shuoffer me and kids around and listen to me ***** if he would help me he wouldent have to worry about it .any suggestions?
2006-06-28 12:33:02 · 8 answers · asked by mom2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you are allowing yourself to be controlled. make some phone calls and get yourself some help.
2006-06-28 12:39:32 · answer #1 · answered by ladyofthehollow 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get it done without him. if you don't have a sister, brother, mother or friend that will help go to a driving school. you know you are being controlled when you feel like you are being controlled. you can tell if he cares how you feel by seeing what he does, if you tell him how you feel and he takes no action to support that then he doesn't care. you need to stick up for yourself, nobody can change this but you. quit putting up with it and he has no choice but to quit doing it or get out. you teach people how to treat you, so change the lesson plan. good luck!
2006-06-28 20:06:42 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just from reading the first 2 lines sounds like he's a bit too controlling!
read the book: How to hug a porcupine. written by Dr. John Lewis Lund. It'll give you some help!
2006-06-28 19:38:00 · answer #3 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to get his self centered head out of his Butt. Go get your licence. Show him that you can do it. Try realing on other people other then you husband. Like friends or family. Ask him if he would care if you left. what ever he says ask him why?, Then ask him why he does not treat you with more love. The last question only works if he says that he would miss you.
2006-06-28 19:40:05 · answer #4 · answered by Hattie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im in a controlling marriage myself and it makes you feel very incesure as a person .. I think you needa work on yourself learn how to do for yourself again become more indapendant ..get a friend or family member to let you use there car for the drivers test .. sweety he's your partner not your dad he cant tell you what to do or how to do it..if he dont support you in the way you need then do it yourself nuttin wrong with being indapandent ..im going thru alot of same things here and it is very hard i do got my licanse but i dont work or have an eduacation .. im trying to do what i gotta do as a person to become more indapendant ..cuz i dunno about you but im tired of being ran thru the dirt by my husband ..im so dependant on him its pathetic we needa do for ourself especially being married to men like them .. there is no telling wen they will walk out .. imma be the one doing the walking !!! if you need help studying or just needa friend get at me i can totally relate to you !!! good luck girl u can do it ..
2006-06-28 19:54:52 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is the year 2006 you can get your liscense without a mans help. do you not have any friends or family around? if not its time to make some. and as far as the controlling goes i hope he doesn't hit you because thats where most controlling relationships go. you need to stand up on your own two feet and depend on yourself too.
2006-06-28 19:38:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are feeling that he is too controling; He is. If you have to guess whether he cares about you or not, my guess is, he doesn't.
2006-06-28 19:38:59 · answer #7 · answered by Madeamove 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are being controlled...seek help through your church or family. this one is a dangerous road.
2006-06-28 19:37:06 · answer #8 · answered by igardentoo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋