My mom is always complaining and I don't really want to sit and listen to her yell for awhile.We have always taken my daughter over there several times a week but my mother is an old lady in alot of pain with rheumatoid artharitis and she is irritable.We went on a long trip with her these past 2 days and I think we all got on each others nerves.She left us a note telling us everything we did wrong basically but who needs it?
2006-06-28 12:28:32 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Set some boundaries.
Tell her you want to bring her granddaughter over to visit, and that you will stay for a set amount of time. (whatever you can stand.)
Do it once a week. (More than that may drive you nuts)
If she gets cantankerous, you are NOT obligated to stay and put up with it. By doing that you are teaching your daughter that it's okay to take abuse just because they're family. How fun can it be for your daughter to see you stressing out?
Yes, she's the grandmother. Does this mean she has the right to make you miserable? Does she have the right to pick at you?
No, she doesn't. And you have the right to expect respect.
Be kind, but firm.
2006-06-28 12:42:03 · answer #1 · answered by abbynormal92243 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should end the relationship with your parent. Your child needs their grandparent(s). I would just limit the amount of time your child and you have to spend together. Maybe take your mother out and do something so that it's not just sitting around letting her complain. Your mom is just trying to help and the note is probably her parenting advice.
2006-06-28 19:33:21 · answer #2 · answered by chariot804 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No matter what those are still the grandparents of that child and just because you are getting along with them doesn't mean that the child should be involved with it. I had a situation that I wasn't speaking with my parents for a while but I didn't keep my kids from them because the problem was between my parents and me not my kids.
2006-06-28 19:36:32 · answer #3 · answered by inltmom-1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe your Mom is no longer playing with a full deck. Also taking medicines and getting older can affect her. Why not change the routine. Visit less and call once a week. Don't feel guilty, I don't.
2006-06-28 19:39:42 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes take the baby to see the Grandparent's they're mad at you guys not the baby.And like you said mom has some health issues so she might not be mad at you at all just could be tired of hurting and taking it out on everybody.
2006-06-28 19:34:21 · answer #5 · answered by dccuttie75 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is your obligation to let your child see their grand mother. Cause you really wouldnt like it if you have a grand child and your child refused to bring them over to see you right? She is old, dont pay her any mind. They will always find a fault in anything.
2006-06-28 19:32:56 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no you are the parents of the child explain to her that the child is cranky and you are keeping the baby away not to get on her nerves and when she feels better you will come for a visits
2006-06-28 19:39:30 · answer #7 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think is good to have your kids to get to know their family.
But if its going to be a waste of time. Maybe you should get a web cam and talk with her like that. or just send videos of your daughter so she can see her
2006-06-28 19:40:59 · answer #8 · answered by you_me_set 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if she likes writing notes then write her one and tell her why she isnt a good enough mom or grandmther.
2006-06-28 19:31:48 · answer #9 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋