I was casually seeing this guy when my ex came back to town. I started seeing my ex and then I got pregnant. This other guy said that he would take care of me and the baby .. he came by a few times with this option for me. I regretfuly turned him down because I felt very much obligated to my ex because I was carrying his child and I wanted my child to know her father. Since this other guy has started a relationship with another woman and they have a child together now.
I have never forgotten about this other guy .. I still think about him alot .. alot. we are both still in our chosen relationships and thus we dont talk or see each other except occasionally in passing.
I would like to re-build a friendship with this other guy but Im really not sure as to how to go about it. Should I just forget him or should I pursue him ( as a friend ) ... and if so, how should I go about it ? There are times when I can be so dreadfully shy.
2006-06-28 12:21:00 · 11 answers · asked by timberleigh 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
s'funny alot of you are saying that I dont want to be "just friends" when I really do just want to be friends with him again. He is good people. I have my relationship with my hubby ( "ex" ) and it is ok. He has his and I have mine. i just would like to have him back in my life whether he is with me or not.
I just dont know how I should go about it.
2006-06-28 12:39:23 · update #1
i think you should keep in touch, but keep a distance. you don't want problems from anyone. if things change in the future, then go for it then if you think it still something you want to do. but no need to cut him out completely if you are ok with just being friends.
2006-06-28 12:33:23 · answer #1 · answered by rt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let it go. You made your choice and he is now in a new relationship with his child involved. You know you don't really just want to be friends and you need to stop driving yourself crazy with the 'what ifs'. Even if you are unhappy in your present situation that has nothing to do with the other guy, he's moved on.
2006-06-28 19:29:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing better than a guy who will take on a relationship with a girl and her child or children from other men. That's so unselfish - it's beautiful.
I'd stop calling him that other guy, and call him your main man. :)
How to go about it? Tell him you were selfishly stupid for saying no to his offers. You've cried, thought about it and cried more thinking how stupid you were and that you finally have come to your senses and realize what a great man you almost passed up... and ask him to forgive you.
Then in a few more weeks ask him to marry you if he hasn't done so! :)
2006-06-28 19:28:18 · answer #3 · answered by game buddee 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are better off leaving him alone. You had your chance & you blew it! Best thing for you to do is concentrate on your bf & your child, so that he can do the same with his, he needs no distractions in his life, as neither do you. You are just asking for trouble.
People often use the term, "just friends" as a ploy, when in all honesty, they want more, and I think this is the case with you....
2006-06-28 19:27:38 · answer #4 · answered by Katz 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, and this is just me. i am in the exact same position well not exactly. my ex & i just found each other after nine yrs. he's married, i'm not. so we had no idea what was going on with the other person. he and i are friends and it works because we were friends before we got together and we live like 1,300 miles away from each other, so there's no reason for his wife to be jealous. and we can be friends like before
2006-06-28 19:44:44 · answer #5 · answered by cmontink 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you lost your chance when you had it so leave it alone cause you are just gonna hurt others involved. your time is gone give someone else a chance now. i used to go for all the bad boys and always in the end was sorry and now i have a good guy and he takes great care of me. isn't it time for you to choose a good guy?
2006-06-28 19:26:54 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave him alone that's one you let get away don't destroy what he and this other person have built together because you were unsure please think of the other people involved if you and your ex is getting along then let it be build on what you started its better to have loved and lost than never to have loved at all
2006-06-28 19:29:23 · answer #7 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should move on.... Its very hard to have a friendship with an ex partner, for you and the others involved, even if nothing were to happen between you two, it doesn't stop your partner and his partner thinking that there is...
2006-06-28 19:26:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having him back in your life is just looking for trouble whether you want to admit that or not.... let it go and move on.
2006-06-29 00:41:25 · answer #9 · answered by Wonderfulhaven 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
let sleeping dogs lie or all hell is going to break loose.. don't even go there as a friend as it will still cause problems..
2006-06-28 19:25:53 · answer #10 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋