My girlfriend broke up with me and I've got to the stage where I'm not mad and all I want is to have her back. I don't know what to do - should I fight for her? Leave her to calm down?
I'm going out of my mind with all these things I want to ask her. I'm truly lost.
Please be sensitive when answering.
Thank you.
2006-06-28 12:18:38 · 14 answers · asked by chris0072k 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It takes at least 3 weeks to overcome the worst pain of a breakup but I promise you it will get better. You have to keep yourself busy. You can't make someone love you when they don't. I know it hurts. Been there done that.
2006-06-28 12:31:02 · answer #1 · answered by myjamsandwich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
awwww im so sorry hun, gotta serioulsy ask yourself why did she leave?? If she just doesn't love you then just bear with the pain for a while cause it will go away in time so keep very busy, and eventually you'll think less and less about her and you'll be fine. If you have done something wrong , know it and fix it, and let her know you know what you have done and show her how you are going to fix it. If she's still not going to come back just face it and honestly , time will heal a broken heart... all the best :)
2006-06-28 19:23:44 · answer #2 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really sucks when a relationship ends. You've got all these memories, and you really, really want to be with that person. And life just goes on as it damn well pleases while we're keeling from pain.
Remember to breathe. (I know that sounds weird, but really, when we're in pain like this we tend to take shallow breaths.) Breathe deep.
Distract yourself with something you enjoy doing. Make it a physical activity so you're not sitting somewhere obsessing.
I don't know if you should fight for her as I don't know the circumstances. My advice would be to sit back and examine yourself. What was your role in this? What could you do differently in the future? This is not with reconciliation necessarily in mind--just for you to take something from this that you can learn from.
And what are you thankful for? What have you taken from this relationship? If there's a time when you two will talk about your relationship, this is something you can share with her. Even if she remains steadfast in wanting to be apart. Be gracious and kind.
I hope things work out for the best.
2006-06-28 19:30:26 · answer #3 · answered by abbynormal92243 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok i have so been where you are right now. im 35 and been there lots of times. time is one way although it may seem like it takes forever. most ppl will say you have to go through the grieving process. another way that could be a little qicker is find a rebound girlfriend or a fling to take your mind off your ex. it sounds bad but its worked for me. i emerse myself in someone new leaving no idle time to think about my ex. good luck.
2006-06-28 19:23:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time will heal you don't listen to any slow jams or do anything that you usually did with your ex. If you want her back let her know but be ready to be rejected for the second time.
2006-06-28 19:24:32 · answer #5 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, think about why she broke up wit u. thats when u should really decide if u should chase her back.
in the meantime, maybe u should chill wit some of ur guy friends. dont stress so much over one loss.
trust me u'll be fine. theres plenty more ice cream in the carton! :)
(fish in the sea is gettin kinda played out...)
2006-06-28 19:24:11 · answer #6 · answered by honni~graham 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are literally millions of other people out there. Rejection hurts, but is a part of life. Move on and believe that there are others out there who will value you.
2006-06-28 19:21:58 · answer #7 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call her and ask what you want to know talk to her communication is the key to all problems find out why she left you but don't grovel be strong and keep your head up
2006-06-28 19:24:00 · answer #8 · answered by toosexy4thisshit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take this from someone who wasnot gone out with ne body in four months b/c my x-bf is "fighting for me" i would never dream of taking him back b/c he has ruined every relationship with every guy i like...... and in turn has ruined ne chance for him and i again....so i would let her test the waters
there is an old saying that says when you let something go if it comes back then it was yours all along... but if it dosent, then it was never yours to begin with...
leave her be for now.. dont run off guys that she likes... if she wants to be your friend, go for that.... and mabey..... someday..... shell want more
2006-06-28 19:26:04 · answer #9 · answered by jesus_freak_forever3days2grace 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IT TAKES TIME! A week is nothing. Give yourself time to heal. A broken heart takes longer then broken bones . Keep yourself, your mind occupied. Hang in there....
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2006-06-28 19:24:06 · answer #10 · answered by ironn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋