would that be considered an emotional affair? what do you think if someone talks to someone (of the opposite sex) online, nothing sexual...just talk, but your significant other doesnt know about it....is that cheating? an emotional affair, a friendship.... what are your thoughts... what would u do if u found your spouse speaking with someone online, and you had no clue about this, would you consdier this cheating??
2006-06-28 12:15:50 · 31 answers · asked by miss me! 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
no no please dont think this is me!!!!! a coworker of mine stumbled upon her husbands im account and found lotts of "conversations" between him and other ppl, my coworker says its cheating, but i think it is friendship...i just want to know what other ppl think!! lol
2006-06-28 12:22:02 · update #1
gotta say this again!!!!! its not me!!!!!!its my COWORKER'S HUSBAND!!!
2006-06-28 12:37:24 · update #2
not me, i'm happy when she's talking to anyone else but me... saves me from having to hear her go on and on about crap all day long...
2006-06-28 12:21:58 · answer #1 · answered by slick_pavement 3 · 0⤊ 3⤋
Relationships should be built on trust therefore being honest about your conversations on line would help this issue to keep from being considered an emotional affair. If you can't be honest with your spouse about your on line friends- I would say, you have emotional affair which eventually could become something more and you are looking for something on line you did not find in your marriage. Personally I trust my husband and I would simply ask questions about the person he is talking to and their conversations. While I would not immediately jump to conclusions but THIS would cause a concern for me. There is a difference between forum where you discuss hobby or special interests and on line emotionally intimate conversations.
I think by engaging in these types of conversations one is going towards the destruction of marital relationship. The person is reducing communication with spouse which inevitably will lead to increased emotional distance and so on. While on line emotional affair might sound to you as a "not a big deal", the consequences can be very devastating. May be it is time to start thinking- what went wrong in the marriage that you can't discuss these things between you and your husband and make changes before it is too late.
2006-06-28 12:30:01 · answer #2 · answered by mini golf blonde 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you cannot be completely honest with your spouse about a relationship with someone you have with the opposite sex, it is an affair, whether is is platonic or not.
Friendships with the opposite sex are tricky when you are married. Sometimes there is sexual energy between people although they may not act on it. Sometimes people use a friendship as an outlet for the chemistry between them.
I think you should evaluate your marriage. If you seek a connection or attention from a guy--then something is wrong and you are slowly setting yourself up for an emotional affair--fueled by the lonliness or loss of connection you have in your marriage.
If you have something in common a guy, there is no 'hidden' sexual chemistry and you do not seek attention or companionship, and if you do not care if your spouse is present or not, then perhaps it is a harmless friendship.
If I found my spouse speaking with someone online--I would consider it a tale-tale sign of something brewing and I would approach it as an opportunity to reconnect with my husband and try to build our relationship so that he would not have the need to seek love and acceptance elsewhere.
That is exactly what people are doing when they strike up friendships with the opposite sex. The are looking for attention, love and acceptance outside the marriage.
2006-06-28 12:26:48 · answer #3 · answered by think4yorself 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, an online affair is an emotional affair - same with text messaging or voice mailing someone who you are more than friends with. You shouldn't be talking or having a more than friends emotional connection with a member of the opposite sex - that place in your heart should be reserved for your spouse only.
Obviously if you are seeking out an extra curricular emotional relationship, you are lacking an emotional connection to your spouse and that should be dealt with. Having an emotional affair will only lead to destroying your marriage.
If I knew my spouse was having an emotional affair I would confront him with what I knew and I would ask him to stop. Communicating and findout out why your spouse is doing it is also important, as is being honest about how you feel. I would very much consider it cheating. If my partner kept doing it I would get into counseling asap.
2006-06-28 12:20:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you or your better half should find eachother better than anyone in the world.
Now, thats where it should end. If there is'nt anything sexual or stuff, why would you be asking this Q.
There could be a lot of non sexual remarks and sentences that could mean that one is cheating on their spouse.
Your spouse could be caring for her, yearning for her and thats adultery, by Biblical terms.
Your spouse should not hide things like this from you. Would he hide a new shoe that he bought or a new male friend that he made ( yes, if he is gay !!! ) but since you said you have no clue about this habit of his, I think he is did a pretty good job of hiding details from you.
What should you do????
Talk to him. Dont be offensive lest he turn you off.
Be fair to him, ask him what is he looking for in an online relationship. Maybe you can fill in the gaps.
Just rehearse your every move and his.
All the best
2006-06-28 12:32:28 · answer #5 · answered by stillfreezing 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your spouse doesn't know and wouldn't approve, it's cheating. If you were meeting this person for lunch and "just to talk," would your hubby be okay with it? Then don't do it online, either. It's the same thing. Even if you're not saying anything you shouldn't, it's just a matter of time. Otherwise, why would you be keeping it a secret?
Friendship is okay, I'm not so insecure that I couldn't handle my wife having guy friends. If she were chatting or emailing some guy I don't know, as long as she wasn't actively keeping it secret, I wouldn't have a problem. I don't need to know every person she communicates with.
2006-06-28 12:27:23 · answer #6 · answered by Judgie C 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, cheating is cheating. Marriage is as much, if not more so, an emotional commitment as a physical one. Energy spent 'flirting,' whether online, by text, phone or in person is energy taken away from the relationship the spouse should be investing in. They are also doing it to fill a need that is not being met within their current relationship, so one needs to address 'why' they are hungry and what is missing. A great book...Emotional Infidelity...don't remember the author, but I highly recommend it.
2006-06-28 12:26:13 · answer #7 · answered by honeygold 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the very incontrovertible reality that he's being so sneaky and protective is a huge pink flag. There will be no reason behind sprint to misprint your call-log, he's merely mendacity on that one. someone has no proper to get mad at your for being suspicious even as they are truly hiding something, which it type of sounds like he's. in spite of in the adventure that they under no circumstances truly met up, if he had no longer something to conceal than he would merely admit to chatting with her. that is unlucky that you've any such small time body to administration this, yet i'd truly attempt to get to the bottom of this earlier the marriage. also, in spite of if there are youthful ones in touch, it could be worse to flow by with the marriage merely because you want to create a much better existence for them or in spite of. contained in the top, it would want to teach to be worse once you've an risky courting. i am hoping you artwork it out!
2016-10-13 22:33:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you share things about you that your significant other would like to know about you, then it's sorta an emotional affair. Also, the more time you spend with someone of the opposite sex the more chances you have of falling for him/her.
2006-07-02 15:44:37 · answer #9 · answered by cocoanutt 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. If you say that texting, or even talking is cheating....then you might as well just have sex. I don't think you can cheat emotionally.
Guys need someone to talk to(other then their wife/gf), the same way women do(talk to their mom/girlfriends). Guys can't talk to other guys, we just don't do that. The only option for guys is to talk to other women.
2006-06-28 12:20:22 · answer #10 · answered by null_the_living_darkness 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Affairs are emotional by nature, just carried out in the physical, so I guess it could be cheating.
2006-06-28 12:18:17 · answer #11 · answered by drsteve362005 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋