I'm due in January, which is still some time away. But I know that I won't be able to stay at home with my baby after childbirth. I'll have a regular materninty leave and then return to work. I live away from my family and my husband's family. I've always hated the idea of daycares or babysitters. I thought when I had my first, I'd stay home until he or she started pre-school. Its really upsetting me. Any suggestions on how to handle this.
2006-06-28 12:08:56 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda A 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I had the same problem. It was really hard and I cried every day for a while. Just get it in your head that you have to do it and that it is not something you are doing because you want to. Think about what you are providing for your child (food , clothing, shelter) and just try to make the best of it. Make sure your baby is in good hands while you are not there and spend as much time as you can with him/her when you are not working.
Sadly , in todays economy mom's staying home with the kids just isn't always an option. Just know that not being able to be there 24 hours a day doesn't make you a bad mom and you are not any less of a mom than those who are able to.
2006-06-28 13:39:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately due to financial reasons I had to return to work when both of my kids were 3 months old. It is hard and emotionaly upsetting but the key is to research your child care since family is not an option (I did 16 interviews before I found the right sitter) and spend as much quality time with the baby when you can. You'll be a great Mom with this type of concern already GOOD LUCK!!!
2006-06-28 12:14:12 · answer #2 · answered by PlainLana 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this is one of the hardest decision U ever have to make as a Mother and as a Woman. I still feel sand and mad at the same time, I mean really pissed about it. Times just where so rough for us in the beginning. I did find a Cuban woman on welfare who did babysitting without that anybody finding out. She had real good maternal instincts, and was kind to the children. Find someone like that. Most American woman just look at your money first, and then the baby...so really watch it...I hope it will work out 4 U...good luck to U
2006-06-28 12:23:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she had the variety of mom who would tell her to have an abortion, who knows what type of pressure she placed on her? If she's nevertheless residing at domicile at 20 with a commited (we are hoping) bf, then odds are because they could't yet locate the money for his or her personal position. If her mom really stated "no b@stard below my roof" then she's kinda stuck, isn't she? nevertheless, she's the man who would ought to stay with it for the subsequent 70 or 80 years, no longer her mom. this is her determination. per chance she would not experience positive sufficient to call her mom's bluff, or maybe her mom extremely is a *****. this is 2010. likely 0.5 of youngsters at the instantaneous are not virgins by 16, likely 0.5 of youngsters are conceived earlier marriage, and an significant p.c. born out of marriage. this isn't 1950 the position that is a negative shame in the experience that your daughter receives "knocked up". no individual cares except per chance her church team. To threaten to kick her out (if she did) is incredibly harsh. (for sure, if the mummy's situation is what a church team thinks, why would she call for an abortion...?) this is no longer like the girl is 14; i'd imagine a baby in severe college might want to judge an abortion in the experience that they favor to end college or produce different severe complications that could intrude with raising a baby. also, i imagine a baby might want to be wanted and loved, no longer resented for ruining your existence, so if there is any doubt, abortion might want to be an option - yet is not in any respect something to take gently. I knew of one lady in severe college who had "themes". She were given pregnant and her moms and dads made her have an abortion. by the time she graduated, she had 4 abortions. I thnk her moms and dads nevertheless did not get the message. good success on your relative!!
2016-11-29 22:37:25 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope I stayed home..the babysitter daycare didnt go over well with me either. do you have a close friend you can trust to watch the baby? get a work from home job
2006-06-28 12:13:21 · answer #5 · answered by brenda4ever 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can only tell you what we did. I got a job working nights. It wasn't easy but I did that for 10 years. I have read somewhere if the mom can't watch the kid the next best person is the maternal grandma, then the dad, then the paternal grandma
2006-06-28 12:16:31 · answer #6 · answered by chrome_rider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had 6 weeks unpaid leave after the birth of my son. It was really hard going back to work. I cried everyday when I had to leave him, even though he was at home with my husband. We worked different times of the day so one of us was always with him.
2006-06-28 12:13:26 · answer #7 · answered by gentle giant 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize this, everyone has different ways that they make sure they are doing the best for their children. Yours is making sure they are provided for. Not everyone can stay home, but everyone can make sure that their children are well cared for, both financial and emotionally. Just make the time that you have with them meaningful and find the most loving and secure environment for when you cant be with them. It will be okay..
2006-06-28 12:17:23 · answer #8 · answered by lkhbhurnje 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you must return to work (like I did) call and check on the baby during the day as often as you need to.It will make you feel alittle better just know everythings alright.
2006-06-28 12:13:44 · answer #9 · answered by Sunshine 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i felt the same way with my 1st but then I found a really good day care or a really good friend that i trusted the 2nd time.. and by the time the 3rd one comes you'll let any one who wants to, take them.....lol
2006-06-28 12:15:40 · answer #10 · answered by Melissa L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋