What to do with a sister on Crystal Meth?

Question

I'm the second oldest to 5 girls. My youngest (19yrs) sister is a crystal meth addict. She is very moody and stays overnight elsewhere without letting anyone know. She comes back in the morning tired and sleeps through the day. She steals from my parents to feed her addiction. It's killing my mom inside and we have all tried to help but she never follows through and always says that she's off the drug but we found out she had been smoking it in her room under my parents' roof. None of us live at home anymore because we are married and the fourth sister is in med school. My parents are traditional asian and we have never encountered this type of drug addiction. We get opinions of other parents that have troubled children but most have gone to get help. I don't want to give up on her but is she a lost cause? We don't even know how to get in contact with her. No cell phone and all her good friends are no longer her friends because of her addiction. If I find her, what do I do?

Answer 1

wait does she live at home with your parents? if she does then it should not be that hard to find her. if shes on the street good luck. i am a recovering meth addict and i am telling you it is not easy. first off never give her money no matter how bad it hurts not to, you will just be buying more drugs for her. if she needs something to eat buy her something but no money. if you give her money you are helping her be an addict and you aare at fault too.n this is really important. secondly you can not help if she is not ready. you could try a intervention. thats when your whole family confronts her and tells her she needs rehab. this is a time to tell her how much you love her. tell her she needs help before she kills herself. if you catch her using in your house call the police and have her arrested. this may seem harsh but at least you know she is not going to die today. never ever trust her around your belongings even if she says shes stop using. that could be bullshit. ppl who use meth hallucinate, pick at scabs and sometimes have a lot of sores. their pupils dialate pretty quickly.(bigger to smaller) she will stay awake for days and eating is something of the past. you have probably notice these things already. if the intervention does not work then you need to support her and be there for mentally only. no money!!!!! never give up on her and pray all the time. she may get to three places which will make her stop. they are institution, jail or death. pray to God that she makes it because this drug is horrible. i will pray too good luck and reading about co dependency may help you to understand how you contribute to her problem and not know it.

Answer 2

Talk to your sister let her knoe that you love her and what she is doing is wrong. Don't make her feel like she isn't wanted, do not crowd her you talk to her one on one. When my sister started acting terrible she is 16 and I am 14 I wrote her a note and let her read it, I expressed my feelings I cried like a baby, tell your sister that if anything happens to her, you will miss her and feel lost because you couldn't help. Maybe one day you should take your sister out and have a good time with her and ask her how does she feels when she does drugs. Ask her questions that will make her feel comfortable talking to you about her problems and she can come to you anytime she needs someone to lean on. Let her see pictures of people who are doing Meth let her see people in the streets who are addicted to drugs, let her see people who died from Meth and other drugs. What I am trying to say is stay behind your sister never give up and never turn your back on her. She is still a child and is going through things that happens in life she will get over it after she see that she does not want to live that way. If u need me just holla i might be young but I know what I am saying

Answer 3

Your parents need to get her into a rehab. Have an intervention where you get your whole family together - and her friends (that aren't addicts) and tell her how much she is hurting herself and all of you. Get her to agree to go to a rehab and get clean.
If she refuses a rehab your parents need to kick her out. If she continues to have a roof over her head, is able to steal or get money she will continue to use. Your parents are enabling her to use by continuing to put up with her behavior.
I have been through this exact situation with a family member also and the sooner your parents let her know that if she uses she's out - the better. If she is living at home she should be mandated to get into rehab, get in na, and also go to school/hold a job.
I will also say that it will be VERY hard on all of you if your parents have to kick her out. She may take a long while to stop using and hit rock bottom - but when she does hit rock bottom thats when she is going to seek out help.

Answer 4

When she comes home again have an intervention all members present,don't let her leave with out getting her in a hospital or rehabilitation unit.If she is in professional care and with others who are suffering she may get her head clear enough to make a rational decision.They have groups and work to do on them selves in these places.She will make friends who have the same problem and working at staying clean.It's not easy but if she wants to live she has to get help!!!

Answer 5

If u find her, it wud B best 2 put her in a Rehabilitation Centre immediately!! Don't listen 2 anything she says, its the Meth talking. She'll probably say a lot of hurtful things but don't listen 2 her; just ignore her. I'm not sure, but I dont think they let people into re-hab without their consent. Just go 2 the one nearest 2 u & ask them stuff. I dont think I can imagine the pain u r going through right now, but chin up. It'll get better.

Answer 6

Join AlAnon so that you can learn some skills that help you cope with her addictions's effect on YOU and so that your behavior does not ENABLE her and disable you and the rest of your family.

Do not let the fact that you or your parents are traditional Asians keep you from taking these steps. Sadly this is an American phenomena that knows no cultural barriers.
God bless!

Answer 7

Get her help ASAP!

Although I've heard that most people won't bother dealing with their drug addictions until they've hit rock bottom and realize that they're at the lowest and there's only one direction to go. At that point they're more ready to change their behavior. Good luck!

Answer 8

this might sound harsh, im sorry but i think she needs a taste of lock up then possibly rehab. my mates bro was on herion and thats what he copped. he was only locked up for two weeks then placed on home detention. he seems to be doing well now and has even got a part time job doing tele marketing i dont know for sure but i guess its worth a shot. the thing is you will have to charge her with something like maybe stealing from your folks maybe you could speak with the judge sometimes they will organise these sort of things i think. they do here in australia

Answer 9

get her to detox. take her yourself so you know she is there. find a place near you where they will make sure she stays and gets treated. maybe therapy sessions. and show her evidence of what happens to meth addicts in the long run by using pictures and stories from past addicts and maybe get one to talk to her. the in person thing works really well.

Answer 10

call this number,1-800-870-9998, its a 24hour crisis hotline.they can can probably give you allthe info you need or lead you in the right direction.i was addicted to drug up until 10 years ago{im in recovery} , i didnt realise what my family and freinds were going thru until i sobered up..please realize that your sister is not your sister right now,but there are things you can do to help yourself and her,please call that number,good luck,love&light,kathy