2006-06-28 11:35:36 · 29 answers · asked by leo m 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Sex, before marriage or after, is only "okay" when both parties are willing to accept any possible consequences. Sex is natural for just about any living organism. It is the responsibility that is the issue.
Sex can be, and usually is, fun, but it is important to at least use protection and/or birth control while engaging in it if you are not ready for the WORST. Heck, there are some married couples out in the world who shouldn't be having sex because the two are not able to accept the result of a pregnancy and suck up welfare.
Now, if you meant something along the lines of teenage sex, that will most likely be not okay. After all, teens usually are not ready for anything despite what one might say. Teens, generally but not all, don't have the funding or mindset for a child or committment in the time of something unexpected.
2006-06-28 11:43:07 · answer #1 · answered by instantly_oatmeal 7 · 7⤊ 2⤋
I think it's a matter of personal belief. If you truly believe that it isn't, and you do it, you'll feel guilty.
I, personally, don't believe that there is anything wrong with premarital sex. You wouldn't want to marry someone if you didn't know you were sexually compatible.
This idea arises from people saying that the Bible condemns premarital sex. I think that the Bible only warns against it because there wasn't birth control when the Bible was written. You certainly wouldn't want to be a single mother in those times. Now that there is birth control, I think it's okay, as long as you're responsible.
2006-06-28 18:38:58 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny Christian 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is very simple..... if you are old enough to make that decision and you take precautions to not get deseased and create a life that your not prepared to create.and carry around with you for nine months of pain and discomfort .
Then you have only to answer to yourself.Something tells me if you need to ask this question you may not yet be old enough to make this choice.Your childhood comes only once and you should experience it.There is too much time for sex and you want the first time to be special and to mean something if not you will be cheating yourself out of a wonderful experiance.Do not do it becuase other people expect you to or another person wants you to. It is your body and you say when and where stay in control.
2006-06-28 18:58:55 · answer #3 · answered by thomas p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's a good debate.
one side it seems to be better to secure the relationship with marriage before making the important choice of sex.
on the other hand
it would be good to know if the person you are with has some weird sexual habits. because we all know sex is one important part of a successful relationship.
i am still on the debate on it myself. i guess just do what you two believe is the right thing to do. as long as you two are happy with your choice why should you worry?
2006-06-29 06:22:42 · answer #4 · answered by theswarm666x 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
me myself i think it isn't why because your supposed to be married before u decide to have sex which is preached in the bible.But sometimes you cant help the feeling especially if you just want to have fun and your not ready for marriage. So i'll say it depends on your situation. But as long as you have protection it should be okay. But as you should know it considered sin in the bible
2006-06-28 18:46:43 · answer #5 · answered by monique#1 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness yes! For some married folk it may be the only sex they ever have. I'd have to rate it as great, okay is generally after your married. Thank you for shedding some light on this subject with your question.
2006-06-28 18:49:17 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a question that has a different answer for each person. Personally, I've never minded waiting for a girl. On the other hand, I've only cared that she didn't have any diseases; if she was an experienced lover...BONUS!! But seriously, use birth control (pill AND condom).
2006-06-28 18:40:52 · answer #7 · answered by adphllps 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Sex is a natural human function. Marriage is a man made institution. Just be careful, and practice safe sex.
2006-06-28 18:38:34 · answer #8 · answered by LEG 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Better than OK. You don't come to your marriage with false expectations or pre-conceptions. You build a relationship instead of getting married to the first person you are really, really attracted to. You learn to distinguish between lust and love.
2006-06-28 18:38:12 · answer #9 · answered by Alex G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say that if it's what you want, really want. Not just a fling or a passing idea, and if you can look yourself in the mirror the next day and feel that you were ready and that it's worth it... i'd say go for it.
but you need to be ready, you need to want it, and you need to be willing and well aware of the risks you'd be taking.
*have fun! be safe!*
2006-06-28 21:39:34 · answer #10 · answered by lizard_of_oz69_8 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋