but now his wife has been saying things like no one keeps anyone at their home (she said this when their was something like that on tv) and sometimes she says the bills are too much to pay and off late she's been asking me have u got any job? what is going on? does she wants me out? what should i do?
2006-06-28 11:30:29 · 21 answers · asked by Salvation 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
well i would like to add something here. first of all the cousin in question is my first cousin and we have always lived very close and our familes also have been very close and he also has stayed with my family for months at a go. another thing i will start working in few more days as i have arranged a job.
2006-06-28 17:58:18 · update #1
Sounds to me like you know what is going on and you hoping someone here will tell you different. If you live with someone you have a responsibility to contribute to that family financially. You also need to have a plan to at some point move out so they can have their lives back. We all do things for our family such as what yours has done for you but you in return need to treat this as a temporary situation and do everything you can to make your time there a benefit to them. Get a job and give them half of all you make and put the rest into savings for your own place, and then move out as soon as you can. That shows respect and thanks for their generosity.
2006-06-28 11:37:15 · answer #1 · answered by rkrell 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are old enough to be out on your own then you need to get a job and move out. If you have just been free-loading for the last three months I think your cousins wife has been very polite up to this point, I would have given you the heave-ho after the first month, or at least been charging you room and board.
If you are a child who has nowhere else to go this arrangement is entirely different but I have a feeling you are just behaving like a permanent guest and sponging off family.
2006-06-28 18:36:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you crazy, of course she wants you out. Living with someone and not helping out is not the best thing to do. Hopefully you're old enough to get a job and offer yourself to pay some bills, groceries, or anything else. Just make sure you are helping out financially, because it seems that's her biggest issue. Talk to her about it and agree in what YOU will do to help the house run smoothly. Don't just sit there and let the days pass you by. I think initiative is the key. You should have helped out before all this started. Before she started to notice that you weren't helping out.
But remember it's not to late and do something TODAY!.
2006-06-28 18:57:52 · answer #3 · answered by YES24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't keep on taking advantage of people's good will. If you do not pay for groceries nor rent you have to think that there is something wrong with this picture. What should you do? Find a job and contribute to the household with $$$ and help to keep the place up or get your own place.
2006-06-28 18:34:04 · answer #4 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she wants you out and you should get out. You've been living with these people for 3 months. That is more than enough time to get on point and get your business together. Stop being a freeloader. No one should even have to make indirect remarks for you to know to get out. Life is hard these days, the economy is horrible for the non-rich, so people nerves are bad and the last thing a person needs is another grown mouth to feed and provide for.
2006-06-28 18:35:11 · answer #5 · answered by purrlywhites 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
3 months is a long time to impose on your cousin's hospitality. Make a plan, find a job, find a place of your own to live, and let your cousin & his wife know when you will be leaving. Then, once you move out, be sure to send a thank you note and lovely gift.
2006-06-28 18:34:13 · answer #6 · answered by kja63 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure about the situation, but maybe she is just afraid that you won't move on if she doesn't motivate you. Or she could be getting a little sick of things (if you aren't giving them enough space or do things that bug her). She definately wants you to start making a *large* effort to move on. Good luck to you whatever it is and with finding a job.
2006-06-28 18:35:15 · answer #7 · answered by BillyBoy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think she is asking you to help pay the bills. If you don't help, you should ask if you can pay 1/2 the bills, and offer to buy groceries at least twice each month. It's only fair. If you live there, you should help with expenses.
2006-06-28 18:34:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if you are old enough to work, get off your butt and get a job and start paying them board, it costs money to eat and shower and wash clothes and all that stuff you know... why should your cousin and his wife have to pay your way????? If thats the case you'd be long gone from my house allready.
2006-06-28 18:35:16 · answer #9 · answered by springo88 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeah she wants you out
no one likes it when someone is living with them especailly for free
either you get a job and show them that you have money and can pay for anything they need or move out and find someone else to live with
otherwise they are just going to get in a fight and then they might get a divorce and it would be becujase of you
GET A JOB
2006-06-28 18:34:50 · answer #10 · answered by citygirl18 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋