Why do women decide to have kids when they know they will be leaving them to go to work?

Question

Why do women decide to have kids when they know they will be leaving them to go to work?
i just dont understand they are going to be working long hours and some stranger is going to be raising them

one or the other

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17 minutes ago
later in life they end up being criminals or bad kids

who shares the same opinion????

5 minutes ago
if you need to work to provide for then kids then what the hell is the husband doing and what are u doing married/living with them

2 minutes ago
having a baby with a cheating/ lying not responsible man not very smart of women right?!!!

Answer 1

Who died and made you in charge of what women should do...

If a woman decides that she wants to have a family AND work, that is her right.

If a woman decides that she wants to have a family AND stay home, that is her right as well.

Some women don't have the luxury of staying home with their children because of finances...I don't know where you live, but in some places life is very expensive and just having a one-income family isn't enough.

Some women do have that luxury and they go for it...but to say that those kids will become criminals is just ignorant. I was able to stay with my two children until they were both 2...and then I started working...I did it because I chose it...I still see my children, and feed them, buy them clothes, take them to the movies, out to dinners...AND my son did go to Daycare and he has now received Citizen of the Month awards two years in a row...

Come on...how old are you...12?

Apparently you have Alzheimer's because you keep on asking the same question...Find something more original to say.

Answer 2

First of all, I am a stay at home mom and have been since before the birth of my first child. I will remain a stay at home mom.

I can't believe the anger in your post. Are you a stay at home mom who has lost her identity and can only feel good if she's putting down other mothers? What's with that?

It doesn't matter if the mom works away from home or is a stay at home mom, if there is love and attention, the child does not suffer. A daycare center does NOT raise a child. It's not a "child-raising" center. Parent(s) raise the child.

I don't agree with people who "just can't wait to go dump off the kids". The kids will pick up on the negativity and be scarred for life. The kids who are loved and paid attention to and are at a daycare center while their parents work to provide don't suffer. My husband's mother worked and he is very close to her and is thankful for all she did. My husband has a Master's Degree and is a loving husband and father.

Do you really think that working moms vs. SAHM's are the reason that people are in jail? Please.


My best friend grew up in a household where both parents worked. She was loved and taken care of. The family was a wonderful family and there was so much love and attention.

Why do you feel the need to pit mothers against each other? Why don't we pool our resources together, respect each other and celebrate our children?

So much anger.....I'm sure your children benefit from that, right?

****Oh man, I just read some of your other questions. You're 18! And you guy-hop and you sleep around. One of your questions is "WHY CAN'T I BE HAPPY".....

Well, it's because of crap like this. So nasty.

Answer 3

How do you know how these kids turn out? This is 2006 and not Little House on the Prarie. No ones life is perfect-when your "husband" that takes care of you and the kids brings you an STD or creates another family on the side-or perhaps beats you- maybe you'll think twice about this judgement you have on women that go to work to provide for their kids-she better hurry up and find a husband or else her kids will be criminals.Get real! Your basically saying that we women should all be Mrs. Cleaver-it just doesn't work that way. Most important-it's their choice to have babies and work-just like you made a choice to ask a stupid question.

Answer 4

I am currently a stay-at-home mom. My mother and father both worked when I was a child and I did not end up being a criminal or a bad kid. I have an engineering degree. I worked for 7 years after college and then decided to quit when I had my first child. I plan to go back to work when my children are in school full time. In my opinion, it's up to each individual whether they want to work or stay home to raise their children. If a woman doesn't feel fulfilled staying home with her children but feels fulfilled working, then she should be able to do that without being judged by other people.

Answer 5

Everybody works for a living! That doesn't mean you have to wait until you're 65 to have a child because you're retiring, does it? I am the proud mother of a 5yr old. I am only 22. I am expecting my second child sometime by the end of January 2007... Ever since I found out I was pregnant, I stayed in school, worked part time, and my family has ALWAYS been watching my child. Just because they don't see the parent doesn't mean they will turn out "bad". It depends what kind of morals you teach them and what kind of an example you set. I am in college right now, and still have 2yrs to finish. I am glad to hear my son boast about wanting to become a doctor so he too can afford the commodities he now has, in the future.

Answer 6

Is this seriously a question? Have women really gained no rights what-so-ever?? I mean seriously. Women have the right to have children and work too. I personally stay home with my son and love it..but for some women they like to do both. Just because you work doesn't mean you're a bad parent and it certainly doesn't mean that they will grow up to be criminals. In today's day and age it's not completely up to the man to take care of EVERYTHING. Get with it..we are in 2006 not 1936.

Answer 7

I am 26 and for the last 5 yrs I have been a full time mother to my son and my boyfriends 2 boys we now have a 2 yr old daughter and another on the way! I don't take the kids to sitters and during the summers they are so bored we have play dates and fun days because socializing is very important for children.going back to work is fine after the child is potty trained no bottle and can speak some words to me this is important bonding only a mother and father should experience

Answer 8

Some women want to have a career and children. It isn't like it was 50 years ago when women didn't have much options when it came to life. Nowadays women can become anything they want. Just because a woman wants to have a career and have a family does not make them bad.

Also with the way our economy is many families have to resort to both parents working to help support their children.

Also many women want careers because once their children are in school all day there is not much for them to do until the children come home from school.

Also who are you to judge these women. Some women enjoy to be stay at home moms and others choose to work. Both moms are very valuable and can prove to be strong influences in their children's life.

Answer 9

Just because a woman is at home with her kids, that doesn't make her a good mother. I know women that stay at home with their kids and don't have anything to do with them all day...they're on the computer all day, or they're getting high or drunk all day, or they're watching tv all day. Those kids would benefit from being a daycare and getting positive human interactions!

Just because a woman is working, does not make her a bad mother. I know women who work and visit their kids during the day at their schools/daycares. They are very involved in their kids lives. They have them in physically and intellectually stimulated activities outside of childcare.

I'm afraid this question is just not as cut and dried as "women with children should/should not work." It's very complicated and very personal.

Answer 10

you are right in respect to the fact that it is nice for children to have a stay at home mom... but that is not a luxury everyone can afford. BUT, just because a mom has to work doesn't mean that she is a bad mother and that she shouldn't be able to exercise her right to have children. my mother worked. i am 33 and not a criminal, BUT i was raised by countless numbers of irresponsible people. my brothers are in their late 20's and again, NOT CRIMINALS. my parents did the best they could to afford and raise all of us. i don't think i could have turned out any better if my mother had stayed at home with me... i'm guessing i would be LESS independant if someone had been babying me all of the time. i should call my mom right now and THANK HER for doing her best to support and afford me. i should THANK my mother for being unselfish and working when she would have rather been at home eating bon-bons and watching The Price is Right instead of my babysitters getting that luxury. working mothers are a true inspiration!