I'm not talking about someone who does it for attention, I'm talking about someone who goes to great lengths to hide the fact that they self harm, but occasionally might feel like they needed to confide in someone about it?
2006-06-28 11:16:13 · 24 answers · asked by Jen 5 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I'm not looking for sympathy and I dont self harm for attention, I hide it from everyone. But sometime, things get on top of me and I feel like I need to talk to someone about it, not my psychiatrist, someone who knows me and cares about me.......but I always worry how they'll react.
2006-06-28 11:44:40 · update #1
I know exactly what you mean, when you have that feeling, you just want someone to sit and listen to you, and not judge you. Personally, I think it depends on the person you talk to, you need someone close to you, who knows a bit of what your going through, but who also knows that you aren't out just to get attention (this is most cutters main worry- and often this stops them from talking to people.) Explain your reasons for self harming and tell them that your not aking for their help- you can get this from professionals. You just need someone to listen and actually HEAR what your saying.
2006-07-01 22:59:58 · answer #1 · answered by BryonyBeth 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No way, my friend did this for ages. Shes not completely over it but seems to be doing better and now tells us when she is doing it so we can talk to her.
I know I don't know you, but if you want to talk then you can message me. If you are thinking of telling your family and are trying to guess their reaction then I dont know how much this will help. You know your family and while I hope they would be supportive you are the best person to judge this.
From what my friend has told me from her experience I can say that when she told her family it was a great relief and although she struggles sometimes (they are reluctant to leave her alone for long periods of time) she is now a lot more positive and her relationship with them has improved. Also, with us as her friends I think she now feels more able to talk to us and I hope she knows that we all love her.
I hope this works out with you and like I said, please message me if you need to talk (click my face and then click contact nata)
2006-06-28 22:21:58 · answer #2 · answered by guest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because some people don't know how to deal with stress, and whatnot, all they need is someone to help them, to talk to. However, if someone self-harms for fun, then no, or image.
This girl who I used to go to school with, she percieved herself to be a reject(yeah right), and thought it was cool to be the "reject", when in fact she wasn't, anyway, she dressed like a goth(not saying goths are all self-harmers), then one day we were in Art and she took her jumper off, and all along her arms were cuts, long slashes, and she wasn't even ashamed of it. My friend, being the outspoken person she is, asked her why she had them, and she replied "I like them, it's Art, and I like the way it feels".
Apparently she asked her friend to do her back, but was refused. What a weirdo.
2006-06-28 11:28:49 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi why should think badly of a person doin themselfs harm its 2 late then. 1 step 2 far! U have 2 no and try and move 2a diffrent life. Dammed hard i no. Been there
2006-06-28 11:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by LESLIE F 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If self harming is something which featured in the life of some one who was important to me I would see if there was a way to understand why they do that. So no, this would not lower them in my estimation I would be a bit concerned about them though.
2006-06-28 11:25:27 · answer #5 · answered by loadsatiggers 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on who this person was, why they are harming themselves, and why they are trying to hide it from everyone but me. If this person is you or someone you know, that person needs to go to a therapist or tell their doctor or parents, not someone who can not do anything about it.
2006-06-28 11:23:52 · answer #6 · answered by wbecca52 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not think badly at all. This is a mental problem which needs help. If you had cancer everyone would run to help and get you to a doctor. We tend to overlook mental problems for far too long.
2006-06-28 11:26:11 · answer #7 · answered by antiekmama 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no i would not.see,self inflicted injuries are an escape,a way to alleviate the pain that is inside them.wounds hurt but the pain takes it all away...which means whether your depressed,stressed,suicidal,angry inside,whatever it is,cutting,burning,hitting....any form of self infliction takes all pain away,at least at the moment.i know this because i my self am a cutter/burner.i have a sh*t load of scars and burn marks on my arms and legs.sometimes you have to confide in someone because if nt it will eat away at you
2006-06-28 11:26:07 · answer #8 · answered by curb_stomp_that_azz 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
alchoholics and drug addicts self harm but nobody fees sorry for them.
Even if your friend appears he's trying to hide it, he isn't. he wants SOMEONE to find out and show they care. It's still for attention.
2006-06-28 11:25:11 · answer #9 · answered by Talamascaa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course i wouldnt think badly of them, i had an ex who self harmed so i can sympathise greatly.
2006-06-28 11:20:15 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋