Every time my phone rings, he thinks its some man. He asked me how many men "F" me in university. He searches my phone and call back every number telling the individuals I'm married. hey it is sicking me and after 10 years I'm ready to QUIT. Hello I have never cheated on the guy but guess what I'm thinking .What do you think?
2006-06-28 11:13:15 · 17 answers · asked by concerned 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Not ALL men are that way. You're dealing with a controlling, selfish, insecure, baby that acts like this because his self-worth is rock bottom. If he still loved you, he would trust you. Even if he is a little shaken, he would tell you what is bothering him. Maybe it was something he saw? Maybe it was something he heard? Maybe he had a horrible dream about something that happened in the past? Maybe he got hit with a brick and it knocked all of the good sense out of his head?
If you still want to be with him, maybe you should be the bigger person and sit him down and confront this situation.
That's if you still love him enough to want to work it out. Do something to make him remember that you are the queen of the castle and he is still the king.
If it doesn't work, then find someone who will act like an adult and love you like you deserve to be loved.
2006-06-28 11:36:48 · answer #1 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
FACT: 2 reasons people are jealous
1 insecure with there self, thinking you wont someone better
2 guilty conceince
The only thing you have to do is figure out which one!
It could be the first one if you have had a job change where you make more money, or you have lost weight and look a lot hotter then before. If not then he has changed and is feeling guilty of something he is doing, hint check his phone, see how he likes it. chances are he won't if he's guilty
2006-06-28 18:21:52 · answer #2 · answered by ffcraig34 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you ever given him a reason not to trust you - would be my first question. If yes, then that's why. If not, then it sounds like he may have been burned in the past, or perhaps he's a bit insecure... he could just be afraid to lose you. On a flip side... I've also read that some men, when cheating on their significant other, tend to get this way and start accusing THEM of cheating. Think about counseling.
Good luck!
2006-06-28 18:17:09 · answer #3 · answered by Lilly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly I think you should talk to him about it face to face and on one level. If that doesn't work then try counsling or something. If your in a relationship for ten years there has to be a reason why... You shouldn't just give it up. On the other hand if you are not happy and you know you won't be then there is no reason to stay. Like I said just talk it out I guess.
2006-06-28 18:20:48 · answer #4 · answered by Kittie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi: Do you realize that this is abuse? Do you realize he does it because you allow it? This is not a man you are with but a little boy with serious issues! I would leave him if you have suggested counseling and he doesn't go. And I hope you aren't flattered by this kind of treatment from him because he is sick. That is not love! There are allot of Nice Men out there, you should find one and dump that idiot!!!! GOOD-LUCK
2006-06-28 18:45:45 · answer #5 · answered by islandgirl0521 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sure sounds like HE is the one doing things wrong! He is being wayyyyy too controlling and way too many accusations! I think he is trying to cover up for what he is doing! Put a code on your phone so he canot access your calls! That will put an end to that! My heart goes out to you! Stand up for yourself and tell him to straighten up or get the hell out!
2006-06-28 18:20:28 · answer #6 · answered by cstinkerbell6969 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you've done something to him before (which it soudns like you haven't), I could understand it some...
But...
If you have not done anything, I would be VERY careful. Does he ever do anythign else to you that is controlling, or is it only this? Just about everyone gets jealous, but this sounds very controlling, and if he's a not-so-great guy then it can lead to abuse.
2006-06-28 18:28:46 · answer #7 · answered by MesChatons 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You just need to sit down and talk with him, at the very least it means that he really truely loves you and he doesnt want to lose you, just make it clear to him that there are boundries on privacy even when your married. Dont leave him just make sure he knows his limits.
2006-06-28 18:18:58 · answer #8 · answered by Sparky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell him 1 or 2 times that u aren't and if he doesn't believe u he mitt be cheated on u and he covering it up like u have cheated.
2006-06-28 18:21:46 · answer #9 · answered by mercedes t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you haven't cheated, don't start now. He must be insecure for some reason. Maybe you should seek counseling together.
2006-06-28 18:17:09 · answer #10 · answered by lara 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋