No offense, just wondering. I mean i have best friends that are Gay. Im to scared to ask them.
2006-06-28 11:11:12 · 16 answers · asked by Allie C 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Well I think this burning question can go either ways with those who debate "how" a person becomes gay or lesbian. I don't know why it's so important to decide because either way, it's not hurting anyone else.
I DO think that some people "choose" to become gay. They aren't as attracted to the opposite sex or they would rather do things and spend their life with someone of the same sex. I don't see a problem with that, it's their life so why should we always have something to say about it? I also think that sometimes people turn to the same sex because they have a bad experience with someone of the opposite sex. People can be put through some traumatic situations and then they never want to go back to anything like that again . . and who can blame them? It's just like if you found a wad of hair in your peanut butter, you may never want to eat peanut butter again! It's simple to make a "choice" to be gay - if someone feels comfortable (more than comfortable more than not) they are going to make that choice.
As for people saying they are "born" gay, I think people get worked up about this because saying you were born gay seems to put it upon God. However, I think what people mean when they say they were born gay is that ever since they can remember they've always liked someone of the same sex. To them, they've never had a chance to "choose" because they've never been "normal" in the first place. This doesn't mean they think God made them that way but it means that it has been their choice or at least their MIND'S choice to be attracted to people of the same sex. These are the people who might not understand why they are attracted to the same sex, but just are. This is why I get angry at those who try to condemn people who say they've been "born" gay - if they can't control how they feel like most humans on earth, why condemn them for it? It's the exact same as trying to get someone who is afraid of spiders to change their mind about how they feel about them. Some people can take it and some people can't, it's just the way it is.
2006-06-28 11:21:59 · answer #1 · answered by TelleyJade 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Christ.
Okay, if you're being genuine and not just homophobic, here's what it is:
Folks don't decide to be gay anymore than they decide to be black or white or tall or short or whatever. You're born with it.
I'm straight myself but I had moments in my youth when I was wondering exactly what the difference was, if someone makes you happy and you make them happy, isn't that what love is all about?
Turns out the only difference between straight and gay is which orafice you prefer. Plain and simple.
By the by, I've just read some of the other answers and higly-dubious "Doctor" B, you ought to be shot you small minded little peon.
2006-06-28 11:14:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The same way you decide to be heterosexual: you don't.
We are each born with different "inclinations" to be attracted to one sex or the other (and sometimes both).
Can you imagine (as a heterosexual) being forced to only have sex with people of the same sex? It would grate against you in a very deep, very troubling manner. It's exactly the same for homosexuals - except that they feel that way about sex (and other intimate relationships) with people of the opposite sex.
It's not a sin, it's not perverse, it's just not the same as you.
2006-06-28 11:16:29 · answer #3 · answered by Rebbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If these friends are your "best" friends, you shouldn't be scared to ask them anyway.
I bet if you did ask them, they'd say "people don't decided it. They were born that way."
Talk to your gay friends. Gay friends are the best friends a person can have....caring, wonderful, sweet people.
Good luck!
2006-06-28 11:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by ashliekeylon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
And you should be afriad to ask such a ridiculous question--I'd kick your dumb a$$. Being gay is not a decision or choice. In fact, if they had a choice most gay people would choose to be straight. Got it.
2006-06-28 11:16:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
they don't really decide it its how they are born.
and yeah i no a lot of ppl say that but, i have a neghbor who is like 4 and he always comes over and plays dress up with my sister and would much rather wear make-up dresses and high heals and play with barbies. and he has always been like this ever since ive known him. so yeah
but i guess they decide whether or not to tell ppl or pretend u no
2006-06-28 11:19:41 · answer #6 · answered by stephanie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are what you are.
Most people realize they are different around 8/9/10.years old.
When everyone else is looking for boy/girl friends they are trying to think of something other than that.!!!!!
2006-06-28 11:16:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother is gay and he said it's not a decision, it just is that way. Born with it I suppose.
2006-06-28 11:14:35 · answer #8 · answered by sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think that people decide if they are gay or les they just are
they probably decide when to come out of the closet though
2006-06-28 11:14:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well first im straight...and if u kno if ur lesbian or gay is by how u feel....n if u really like the same sex as u...n how u can communicate....i hope this helped
2006-06-28 11:19:58 · answer #10 · answered by Alessandra 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋