my gurl dont want to have sex until she's married, (we're 16) but im thinking differently. is there a way i can convince her into it without feeling like i raped her
2006-06-28 11:06:38 · 24 answers · asked by Press F 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i'm gonna go out on a limb here and assume that you're a decent fellow. #1, you're asking advice, #2, you have a girlfriend. most piggish guys don't have anyone in thier life that would let themselves be claimed as a "girlfriend " so lets go back a littlebit. back to when you first got together. something about you attracted you to her and it wasn't yourhard penis, it was probably because you're a nice guy., maybe because you're smart, charming, fun to be with. well, quit thinking with your small head--if you know what i mean ___girls like sex too, they think of sex too. everyone, even guys (whether they admit it or not ) wants to wait til marriage.if it happens before then, lets certainly hope it's not thru rape, or any uncomfortable ,forced situation.i'll bet that if you return to that guy she saw when you first met, you'll improve your chances. you may discover that you like a girl who's willing to wait. if you play it right, hang in there, maybe You'll be the one she marries.Get a grip on yourself!!!
2006-06-28 11:22:51 · answer #1 · answered by quartertil2am 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Respect her and uphold her in her beliefs. Waiting will make it more special for both of you. If you are truly serious about your girlfriend then you will not pressure her. She may change her mind in time anyway, but until then she will only feel pressured and it will take away from the experience. Wouldn't you hate it if you ruined a memory that will be burned into her mind for the rest of her life. A girl's first time is a memory that she will never forget even if she lives to be 100 and it should be one of the most special events in her life. Be patient with her or move on and find a girl who is willing to go ahead and have sex with you. Even if you love her if you feel like you cannot wait for her then move on. If she feels pressured she will end up resenting you anyway in a big way. There are other things you guys can do without going all the way. Respect her and her morals and beliefs, though.
2006-06-28 18:15:32 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow. You must have some major shame issues regarding your body if you're equating convincing a girl to have sex with rape in your mind. I would respect her decision and realize that, as the two of you have different opinions regarding sex, maybe you're not right for each other. You'd both be better off with someone who wants the same things from the relationship, her with a similarly repressed man and you with a similarly sexual woman.
2006-06-28 18:12:18 · answer #3 · answered by Guelph 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy you need to respect what your girl says. If you really love her than you won't try anything. And at 16 you need to grow up before you start thinking about sex. I have a 16 y.o. daughter and if her boyfriend tried something like what you are thinking she would break up with you, her opinion and values matter too.
2006-06-28 21:04:53 · answer #4 · answered by BERNIE W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, she's not even legal.
Think differently with some other woman, and respect what she tells you she wants. Or masturbate more.
If you seriously are that desperate to have sex, break up with her and get a different girlfriend as opposed to arguing her out of her beliefs. At least she'll learn about men early on.
2006-06-28 18:13:03 · answer #5 · answered by Alex G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she doesn't want to have sex than that is her decision....if you don't like it than I guess you can either masturbate....or find another girl. If you REALLY truely love her you'll wait for her...they say the best things in life are worth waiting for. You should respect her wishes, if waiting til she married to have sex is what she wants to do than I say more power to her because so many girls these days DON'T wait...I'm one of them...I didn't wait and I wish I had of....but we all learn from our mistakes. Good luck to both of you!!!
2006-06-28 18:12:29 · answer #6 · answered by myhopelesslyshatteredheart 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't respect her and put more emphasis on sex than you do her as a person, break up with her. You're letting your hormones instead of common sense get the best of you.
2006-06-28 18:11:25 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No and you should not try. If this is an area in which you are not compatible then you perhaps should not be together - but if you convince her or coerce her, she could have serious problems with doubt and guilt and you will likely lose her anyway.
Peace!
2006-06-28 18:09:29 · answer #8 · answered by carole 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to ??? She's saving herself for the one that's gonna make a commit to her for the rest of her life. Where do you feel you have the right to second guess her. It's her body and if you can't wait well, you need to find yourself a little tramp and be happy !!!
2006-06-28 18:12:14 · answer #9 · answered by quiet times 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dude stop thinking of your self. If you love her you will wait and not cheat on her. You can do other stuff with her besides having sex. This stuff is very serious for us girls don't push her because if shes not ready she will never forgive you or her self.
2006-06-28 22:45:13 · answer #10 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋