I think im pregnant.Should I have this baby??

Question

You probably know that my boyfriend used to beat on me, and when I left him I dont know what made me go back to him.I just had a baby 5 weeks ago, and when I told him that I might be pregnant again two days ago and I dont want to get a abortion but I dont want to have another baby by him.He got mad and started beatig on me, and ever since that day everytime I said somethings to him he get mad.I want to have this baby but I dont want to have it by him

Answer 1

Have the baby! I know that you don't want it, but I believe in life at conception - there is a heart beating already. Get away from that boyfriend as fast as you can and take your child with you - go to a safe house or a friends' place, anywhere! But please, have this baby - give it a chance to live and make a difference in this world.

Answer 2

Thankfully we still have that choice to make, regardless of political rantings. How far along are you? Are you/baby healthy? How can you be pregnant with a 5-week old infant? Are you not breastfeeding, and did you wait the appropriate time after birth to begin the nooky? I'm guessing that you're very young. Call your parents and talk to them. If they're not any more responsible, call a friend (or seven). This is not a choice that you can let someone off the internet make for you. The number one thing that you can do is leave. It sucks, and it's going to hurt (I know you "love" him and crap), but it will hurt a lot less in the long run. Do you love your infant? Do you want your baby to be abused, or see his mommy abused? Most likely he or she will grow up to fill the roll of abuser/abused if that's what it's like at home. Grab your baby, stick your fingers in your ears, and run out the door as fast as you can yelling "La la la la la!" so you can't hear anything he says to you. Stay out. Have the courts go after him for financial support. CALL THE F-ING COPS!

Answer 3

With the new law, you are able to drop your baby at any hospital and then leave. No questions asked. But I can't see why a mother would want to do that unless the baby was a result of rape or incest...or anything else that might affect the way you would raise the kid. Although abusive partner is up there with rape.

Get the cops involved if this guy is beating you up for no reason. No abuse should be tolerated.

Answer 4

No, I definitely think you should NOT have this baby. You have an infant and an abusive boyfriend. I predict that (if you are smart) you will soon be a single mother which for survival's sake will be easier with one child. I urge you to Get Help!!!. Call your local crisis line and go to a transition house. There, they can help you get medical attention and help you find housing/financial support for yourself and your child. You are not just living your own life anymore, you have a baby. Get away from this guy TODAY. Don't hang around for the next beating. You and your baby deserve more from life! Abortion is not pleasant but we must make some grim decisions in this life when our survival is at stake. Please reach out for help if only for your child!

Answer 5

You don't deserve to get your *** whooped anytime you upset him...and that baby that you have and the one you might be possibly be carrying don't deserve to have an incosiderate a**hole for a father. Those babies did not ask to be born into a dysfunctional family, but they are (and will) be here and it is your responsability to teach them right from wrong...and that a**hole isn't going to help!

Abortion, although a good thing in some situations...you really have to consider it's consequences. Honestly, I think you will regret it...

Stop being with a man that treats you like crap and focus on your children. Ultimately they are the one's that need you the most and bring you the most joy at the end.

Answer 6

Well.... You can't change the fact that he'll be the baby's biological father....but you don't have to stay with him. You don't deserve being beaten. You need to leave him, or get him into counseling. I work with children who come from abusive families and it's not healthy for the children or the parents to experience any type of abuse in the home -- mentally/emotionally or physically. You need to think long and hard about the situation you've got yourself in and make a decision from there. Is this an environment you want to bring your children up in? If he beats you..... when will it be your children's turn?

Answer 7

You still love your first child even though he is the father, don't you? You'll love this one too. It doesn't matter who the father is. The important thing is the child. Don't let him be the reason why you are ending this child's life. I know its easier to terminate this pregnancy now because you don't know the child and haven't loved it yet but its only easier for "you". It's tempting to just go with the easier way but take the harder path. It will also bring you joy! As for the boyfriend, f*ck him! Are you hmong? you name sounds like you could be but i could be wrong. You could be another asian. Well, I'm hmong and I know how asians can be especially if you live with his family and you feel like you have no way out! I don't know if that's how it is with you but my life use to be like that. My baby's daddy would beat me once every now and then too but stay strong. Don't let him step all over you and stand up for yourself! Don't start to depend on him financially. Start setting up a stable future for you and your children and then leave his a** when you can but don't let your misery with him lead to abortion! If you really decide on it, look into it before you do it! click on my name and read my question ARE you still pro-abortion and look at the photos! Abortion really is murder! IF you will die for your children, then why not live for them!

Answer 8

Well, you should definatly get rid of him. He doesnt deserve you or your kids. I would personally tell him you werent pregnant, leave him and just never tell him. I disagree with abortion. Here is a site that is extremely graphic so viewer discretion is advised but if you are seriously considering it check this out first. I used to be pro choice but after seeing this site...I think adoption is a much better way of dealing with an unwanted baby. But like I said..very graphic so if you have a week stomach or just dont want to see then don't visit the site...it's a just incase. What would be worse abortion or having a baby with this guy?

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Answer 9

BY him is not an option at this point. WITH him is the more important aspect to focus on. If he's touching you in any way that can be construed as abusive, CALL the COPS! Arrest his a$$ - maybe he'll learn not to hit women.

And while he's in jail, you get your a$$ out of there! If not for your sake then for the sake of your newborn and your possible new one on the way! If he gets tired of smacking you around, how long is it going to be before he goes after the baby?????
Shelters are a tremendous resource... use one of them...NOW.

Answer 10

Get as far away from him as you can and get his *** thrown in jail for hitting a pregnant woman, they'll put him under the jail! If you really want to have this baby, have it but just remember he was only the sperm donor he doesn't have to be the Daddy!!! Sounds like he's not done being a son, of a ***** that is! But you and your kids would be better off not EVER seeing him again!!!