I need some help.?

Question

My 15 year old brother is really lazy and won't do anything he is asked. He does not help and he has to be forced to do things. If any parents/ brothers or sisters have this problem all advie will be helpfull. Thanks

Answer 1

I feel your pain! The only thing you can do is talk to your parents in an adult manner. Don't whine and complain; tell them you feel your brother needs to do his chores because it teaches responsibility, like the responsibility you've learned from doing your chores. After you talk to them, the ball's in their court. They are the parents. If he doesn't do his work, it is their job to appropriately punish him. If they don't, then in the future he'll continue to be lazy and he will have a hard time of living on his own when he's an adult. It might not seem fair to you, and it really might not be fair, but unfortunately you have to accept it. My advice for you is to keep doing the right thing, even if it's hard. He'll probably be less lazy after he gets punished, or maybe he'll naturally realize he has to be responsible. That's the just the way teenagers are.. been there, done that! Good luck!

Answer 2

i think u shouldn't force him when he doesn't wanna work, just let him feel at ease. he is a guy, u can't do anything really to stop him, if u force him u will surely get a result u don't want. the best thing to do is, look for a suitable time when he's having fun with u and talk to him about it. talking is the best ans, tell him how it makes u feel and mom too and let him promise u he will change. he is gonna feel for what he has caused u guys but know change needs time. he will try to get away from dat, but u need to be there by him all the time to remind him about what he promised u. u should also encourage him by giving him something great when he does a good job but remember to give him sometime for himself.

Answer 3

Brothers are like that and for the most part most guys are.I have 2 brothers both older about 29 and 26,but when they were 15 they were lazy and one of them still is.Nothing can fix this they have to make the decision themselves.

Answer 4

I have a 14 year old son and you need to play the hard love card in this game. Yes i tell him all the time that i love him, but when he needs something i am so hard on him about it. I remind him all the time that i work for everything i want, so he also needs to work for what he wants.

Try really hard to do things with him and try to keep him from hang with friends. That means internet chatting and phone call too. The more you hang and do things with him the better the chance the he will come around to listening to you/ parent.

This has been working for me so far. I try hard to do alot with him, like going to movies, diner and to the skate part to watch him skate board.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Cut him off from all things he depends on from the family and make him earn it. If he is allowed to get away with this behavior, he will keep doing it.
Get him where it hurts like stop feeding him, make him sleep on the floor, do not let him use anything that you are responsible for the up keep, no TV, no games, take him back to the cave days. What ever he wants he has to go get it for him self.

Answer 6

being 15 is a tuff age, and the problem these days seems to be children lack respect or an understanding of family, he should do his part to keep the "family" in balance, as you more then likely now know, his actions or lack of are disrupting the family, encourage your parents to back up your feelings by reenforcing the rules and the importance of fairness amung all family members being a balanced part to ensure all of you live,laugh and love more....hope that helps, another point: tell your parents he has enough "buddies" he needs parents and rules and you all deserve respect.

Answer 7

I'm sorry to say this, but there isn't much you can do. What about his parents? Its been my personal experience that when children know they don't have to do anything,,,,,they won't. All they will do is drive you crazy in the process. Don't let him stress you out. His laziness makes you look good.

Answer 8

You need to sit down and have a heart to heart with your parents about how this makes you feel etc. If you are still at home or see that his chores or responsabilities are pawned off onto the others everyone needs to refuse to pull his weight.

Answer 9

I have four siblings, and when we were younger the only way you could get them to do anything was manipulation. You're going to either manipulate him or just wait until he grows up.

Answer 10

He is going through a phase, you probably did too!!! Try giving him some vitamins to boost up his energy...