I'm a female currently in a very loving relationship with my boyfriend. I've been friendds with my male friend since we were 15. However, he was attracted to me throughout my highschool years, and I was NEVER attracted to him and to this day, STILL NOT ATTRACTED. He met is girlfriend his senior year and quickly lost his interest with me, but we still were good friends. When we left for college, his girlfriend forbade him to keep in touch with me. for 3 and half years we hadn't contacted each other. It wasn't until a 9 months ago she's finally given him the ok to contact me. we talk on the fone about once a month, but we mostly chat online every day. However I want to hang out with him, but he hasnt shown any interest to do so. Is it too much to ask? Does his girlfriend have any right to control who he hangs out with? Doesn't take two to tango, if that's what she's worried about?
2006-06-28 10:52:26 · 11 answers · asked by Hamster Puff 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I feel for you girl. I to had a best friend that was a guy when I was in high school. He was one of the best friends I have ever had & it all ended when he started dating some girl also. She didn't want him around me. It was terrible & heart breaking but things like that happen. Relationships change, people change. I say take what you can get because it's apparent that he is going to listen to his gf. So just be glad that you have him in your life. I never got my friend back. It's been 20 yrs & I still miss him. : ( Best of luck & God bless.
2006-07-12 04:14:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh absolutely!! But that's only possible if both the people are looking for friendship and nothing else to begin with. Plus both of them have to have decent amount of maturity to maintain such a relationship. Respecting each other, expecting the least, giving each other healthy amount of space, and keeping your egos aside is the key to such a relationship. Most people cant handle that that's why they cant be just friends with the people of the opp sex. Pls always keep an open mind while entering any kinda relationship. Dont go by the stereotypes build by the society. Am sure you'll be fine. All the best.
2016-03-26 21:01:20 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that boy - girl relationships never work out. That's how affairs start. His girlfriend probably knows this and doesn't want to risk anything happening to her relationship with her boyfriend. My husband is not allowed to hangout with any girls alone. If he is with guys and girls its okay though. Can you and your boyfriend and your friend and his girlfriend all go somewhere so you can all get to know each other ? If you were friends with his girlfriend than their would not be a problem. The four of you should all go out together not just two of you.
2006-07-11 12:06:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes she has a right to dictate to him who he hangs out with, she's his woman! If he doesn't like her dictatorship he will surely tell her and resume where you all left off.
He obviously enjoys this woman's company, to have not contacted you for 9 months. That means he was content and happy with this relationship he formed with her.
You say you're friends, yet when he treats you like a friend you seem to want him panting over you again. Come on now...get over yourself and let your friend be just that...your friend.
Peace Out.
2006-07-10 22:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by blakelycollierbrown 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you're wanting something that you can't have and once you had it you didn't take it serious. Maybe this friend is more than a friend and you haven't opened your eyes to see that maybe your friend is feeling the same way.
Communicate to him. See where he stands. You might be doing the tango...if you just reach out and make that telephone call!
2006-07-11 10:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's complicated. No, she should not choose who he hangs out with. If they are in a serious relationship, she needs to look at what bothers her about the situation and resolve that internal conflict. On the other hand, if she is giving him the no sign, it is his choice to follow that. Don't be too harsh on either of them. In both cases, it is just human nature coming in to play. Why don't you hang out with her? Get to be friends with her and I bet she doesn't mind you hanging out with him so much.
2006-06-28 11:02:54 · answer #6 · answered by Jim M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the 3 of you can go out.You may not like this but at least it will break the ice.I wonder what is going to happen.....hmmmmmmmmm sounds like there is more to it then friendship.
2006-07-05 19:57:02 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes me and my bf been goin out for a month already no fights so i believe so
2006-07-11 05:04:42 · answer #8 · answered by boricua chick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
his girl has trust issues, and it is possable, because almost all my friends are guys (im 22 female)
2006-07-10 04:52:57 · answer #9 · answered by MISHELL I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
only if bith of them are not sexually attracted to one another. maybe.
2006-07-11 09:30:13 · answer #10 · answered by Almond J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋