Am i strange?

Question

Most of my friends can have sex with guys they don't have feelings for, i don't understand how they do this cos i done it once and it didnt feel right. Its always better when it means something.

Answer 1

i agree. u just have higher morals than ur friends & a better conscience.

Answer 2

its not strange. that just means you're not comfortable with being a s l u t. and that is a good thing. I think its better when it means something. if it makes you feel uncomfortable, then don't do it. its your body. you don't have to have sex to be cool. you don't have to do it because everyone else is doing it. when you give it up to multiple guys, you're giving up a part of yourself. your body is special. you should treat it that way. which means, not having sex with random guys just to do it.
Some may argue that its 2006 and times are different and everybody has casual sex, blah blah blah. But, thats also why there are so many stds out there. why there are so many girls getting pregnant before they can even get a job to support the kid. and you have to look at the guys too. do you think they care about you? no, they just want a piece of ***. they may tell stories about you, tell all their friends, and all their friends friends that they had sex with you. there are plenty of reasons not to do it. But, the biggest one is because it didn't feel right to you. maybe you should get some friends who aren't whores.

Answer 3

You're not strange. Everyone is different & I'd tend to agree with you. Sex with some one special is better than sex with no one in particular. I've had both and would rather have been surfing most of the time ......... until now! If anything doesn't feel 'right' you shouldn't do it - doesn't matter what it is that you're thinking of doing!

Answer 4

No you're not strange at all!

Why do it with a guy if you don't care for or really fancy him, anyway? I've never understood people who do. That's just being desperate.

I didn't really fancy my first boyfriend at all, and as a result I was nervous and uninterested, and nothing at all happened, and we finished after 10 dates! XD

However, I found the second guy really sexy. That relationship lasted 4 months...though it was a lot more fun than the first one, and much better. I will never forget it. :o)

Go with what you feel, and don't be like your mates because you feel you have to be.

Answer 5

No sweety,
You are just fine. Society has every one all screwed up! It tells us that everything risky is ok. Not so true. Just ask any young adult female say twenty or so and they will tell you they wish that they had waited.
Also on an emotional level most people don't understand or are aware of what is called a soul tie. A soul tie is when you share your intermost portion of your self with someone (your soul), you actually give away a piece of yourself and they give away a piece of themselves to you. This happens with each person you have sex with. So just imagine for a girl to sleep with a lot of guys by the time they are married they have given away so much of themselves, they don't know who they are. And not only that, but they don't have much of themselves to give to the one they truely love. Take it from me its a lot of work getting yourself back...especially years later. Rest assured you are doing the right thing!!!
Blessings

Answer 6

Not strange at all honey - and neither are your friends. Some of my friends like red wine and it always gives me a headache. We are all different and different experiences affect us differently.

Some folks think having sex with a stranger or someone they don't know well (or they don't plan to see again) can be safe because their feelings won't be invested and they won't get hurt if something goes wrong. Others just don't feel comfortable with that level of intimacy without a lot of feelings attached. Perfectly normal.

Peace!

Answer 7

No, you are not strange. That is the way it is supposed to be. Sex with someone you have no feelings for and sex with someone that you are really in love with are not the same. Don't mean to put your friends down but they are just young girls out getting screwed. And some day, they will probably regret it. They also have no respect for themselves.

Answer 8

You are one of those that think sex is far more than it really is. Do not confuse banging bodies with love. Your friends seem to think of it as something of little value that gives them pleasure. Being pure and waiting for Mr right is great but remember the love that people write about is much more than exchange of physical feelings. The real love is sharing your whole life and future not just the bodies.

Answer 9

No. You are not strange. Ya gotta go with what feels right to you...not anyone else. You may be told you're missing out on something by your friends, but they're not gonna tell you about the emptiness they feel when it's over and they're alone. They won't tell you about the risks they take every time they just do it. Sounds old-fashioned, but save yourself for love, honey.

Answer 10

Thats a good thing. Just because they sleep with anyone and everyone doesnt mean you are strange. It just means that you have higher standards. That is something special to be shared between two people that have feelings for each other. Dont let people tell you otherwise.

Answer 11

No theres nothing wrong with you. Having sex doesn't mean your grown up. Enjoy your youth before getting tied down. Wish I had cause I was where you are now......My daughter grew up in a hurry when her first child was born. She loves her son but wishes she'd a waited for awhile. She has three children now and is married but her fun times were cut short. So stick to your guns you are not strange they are.

Jane