my husband has just admitted to chating, I found out who she is what should i do!?

Answer 1

cheating or chatting? Consider counseling. . .

Answer 2

Do you mean chatting or cheating? If it's chatting with someone on-line, just find out who it is. See what they talk about. It might just be a simple friendship and nothing to get too excited about. If there's some reason that you feel he was trying to start some kind of new relationship, then you have reason to be so mad. Have him send her a message, while you are at the computer with him, that it is over. See what her answer to that will be. That right there will erase all doubt. If nothing was going on in the first place, don't make a big deal of it. Just explain to him that you no longer want him talking to her, and if he does and you find out, you're gone!!!!

If it's cheating, there's not much you can do, with the exception of forgiving him. You'll never forget it, but if you really love him, you might want to give it another try. Just keep in mind, it's very hard to trust someone after they have cheated. If you can't find it your heart to forgive him, best thing you can do is leave him. Move on..... You will find someone who is worthy of your love.

Answer 3

I don't think chatting would hurt any thing. He probably feels comfortable talking to someone he knows he'll never meet. That way no matter what he tells her he knows it will be kept a secret. Think of this; what is he getting from chatting that he could be getting from you? Maybe some intellectual conversation, maybe even fantasies. People go where they feel wanted. It's human nature. She must be giving him the attention that he craves. She must be telling him what he wants to hear. Remember what the two of you have is real. What they have is just a cyber fling. Maybe you should step it up. Give him something new and sexy. Thats probably what he's searching for on the world wide web. Some times relationships get old. You need to spice it up girl. Go get you man.

Answer 4

I chat to a guy i know is married and has kids but i am the same as him and both our partners know about this we mostly chat about our kids.we met on pool and have been chatting for about a month we talk and ask advise and cheer each other up but nothing else we just play pool or go and chat with msn.We got on SO well in the pool room that we decided to give out our email address.Why does a lot of people think it's wrong?My partner is some times next to me and knows its nothing in it as i would never meet anyone at all from the www.Different if you caught him chatting about s e x but other wise leave them alone .If you don't have trust in a relationship then you have nothing sorry

Answer 5

not sure of the question. did he cheat on you, or did you catch him chatting with someone on yahoo? if he's chatting with someone, let him chat. so long as it doesn't lead to him cheating, which in that case he has to leave.

but that just poses the question what do you think drove him to cheat? if you're not the fun, exciting freak you once were before the ring and "i do's" then whose fault is that? that's what causes men to cheat and ultimately break up marriages, when a woman changes. i'm not talking about mood changes because you'll always have that. i mean, you go from fun freak to rude prude literally after the honeymoon. your man wants the same woman he fell for until the end. if you nag, berate him, don't let him have [man] fun, and (God forbid) withhold sex, you're asking for a divorce. i'm not saying that's right or even a valid justification, that's just the way it is. but, if you're still the same and he just wants to have his cake and eat it too then kick that sucker to the curb.

Answer 6

If you mean cheated then take it out on him. Just as men will plug any knothole they can get into women like to have a strange peg to work on now and then. You can take some of the blame because if YOU kept him too tired it would not have happened. Let is go or get rid of him but do not drag things out. A strange piece of pie does not ruin the meal. Grow up and just make him get tested before you have unprotected sex.

Answer 7

Depends on if you have children, was it unprotected.....people quit too easy sometimes, but If you two are unequally yolked in the first place....get out like I did..... I held on 2 yrs. too long. But at least yours told you...consider yourself lucky on that.

get prayer and counseling for you both to see if it can be worked out.

I can't believe how many people on here just say leave and don't look into the situation. Love is a Circle that is Eternal. Remember the Vows?

Answer 8

Well one thing is can you trust him after that? Cause if there is no trust in a relationship then it's not going to work. Also can you forgive him, it's never your fault that he would ever cheat on you, he made his own decision, is he worth a second chance in your heart to give him a chance to make things work? If your having second thoughts and you would have the what if's rule your relationship, then get rid of his and find someone else, you deserve the best and is he's not worth it then give him up.

Answer 9

I would seek counseling if your marriage is worth saving. It will take you forever and a day to trust him again and to move on.
Why did he admit this? Did you ask him because you suspected cheating?
If kids are involved you have a real burden of a decision to make, all things considered, you need a good marriage counselor. What he did is a violation of your vows and trust and it needs to be addressed now.
I am sure she didn't put a gun to his head to Make him cheat so forget about her, worry about your life. He made his decisions and he needs to face up to them and live them out. Reconciliation is an option to consider. Read this> http://www.heartlight.org/articles/200003/20000302_reconciliation.html
Good luck.

Answer 10

What do you feel like doing? Who she is, is less important than that he cheated. You have to decide if you want to try to forgive him or not...and if you do want to forgive him, can you trust him again? Not an easy thing to get beyond. If you decide to stay together, some counseling may be in order. Hopefully the "other woman" will move on with her life.

Answer 11

Do not confront her. The issue is between you and your husband. Not her. You need to get counseling, and decide what you are going to do.

Chances are he would have cheated with someone, and she was just the one who happened to be available.

If the two of you decide you want to work it out, then he's going to have to earn back your trust. Work on the two of you, and forget about her.