If you were raped by someone you didn't even know and weeks later you found out you were pregnant, would you get an abortion, or keep it? And would you teel your parents, knowing your they'd be mad [and refuse to help you take care of the baby] at you for being pregnant even though it wasn't your fault?
2006-06-28 10:30:44 · 46 answers · asked by K 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
I would go to a crisis pregnancy center, they can explain all of the options you have and help you deal with it mentally and emotionally, personally I am against abortion and would probably choose adoption, but I cannot speak for anyone else as I am not living their life.
2006-06-28 10:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by greeneyedprincess 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think that they are going to be mad at you because you got raped. That was not a choice that you yourself made and so they cannot be mad at you. If anything they should try to find the person that did this to you. Don't you feel guilty because you didn't do it. There is nothing that you can do in a situation like that so there is no reason to have the blame placed on you. PLEAZE tell your parents they will know what to do to help you the most. I dont know if you want to keep the baby or not but if you don't its understandable. I don't suggest abortion because that can cause you not to be able to have children in the future but I do suggest adoption. Give the child to someone that can't have children instead of putting yourself in danger as well. Im assuming your pretty young and i don't suggest an abortion since your body isn't fully developed yet.
2006-06-28 10:42:45 · answer #2 · answered by lancerchic_04 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to find a Planned Parenthood or some other type of center where they can help counsel you. Your age may make a big impact here as well, as if you are a minor you may not be able to much without consent of your parents. Is one of your parents easier to approach than the other? I don't think that this is something that should be kept from them. Abortion is a very mixed feeling subject. You are definately in a place where it should be allowed if needed or wanted, but some people can't for many reasons. Church, family or possibly just because they cannot go through with it. There are many places that can help you get through the pregnancy and find the right parents for you baby to. You definately need to talk to someone (an adult!) from a school, church, or a hospital, someplace! This is something that was hopefully reported to the police, so they should have had someone around to talk to you too. Good luck with everything!
2006-06-28 10:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by griz 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would depend on the situation, though I think in today's world, most people would get an abortion (Though that is NO REASON for any particular individual to get one). You have to have parental consent in some states depending on your age (look up Planned Parenthood's website for laws where you live).
Your parents would be mad at the situation, not really at you. They'd be mad because they know it is so tough for their daughter to be in a situation they never dreamed possible and only want the best for her.
Some people may react by thinking she "caused" the rape by dressing inappropriately or drinking or even being in the wrong place at the wrong time, even if it was completely random. There will always be people who think this way, but they are wrong.
If you are intoxicated and raped, you are legally unable to give consent to having sex if a guy claims that you did and you really didn't or don't remember. Even if you think you might have.
The laws are on the victim's side, so hang in there. Educate yourself some more and you will gain more confidence about the issue.
2006-06-28 10:39:21 · answer #4 · answered by Aemilia753 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I highly doubt your parents would be mad at you because you got pregnant due to a rape!!! Do they know that you were raped?? If they do get mad then they are evil people!! If you really think that they will get mad then I would find someone else to talk to about your situation (a school counselor, a very good friend, your doctor). If you want the baby, then keep it, it is your decision, but realize that you might end up resenting the baby (which is not fair) if it ends up looking like your rapist. Every time you look at the baby it could bring you back to a bad memory (being raped). You need to talk to somebody about all of your options and weigh the pros and cons of the situation.....
2006-06-28 10:36:29 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hope you have gone to the police the person who did this to you should not be on the streets. Now you have proof. However I say if you cannot handle being pregnant by him then abortion is the way to go for you. Remember it is still a child and there are alot of loving families out there that would love to have it. It would be extreamly selfless of you to give it up for adoption. An amazing decision only you can make. Im sorry that your parents are not being more supportive for you this is not your fault and neither is being pregnant. Good Luck.
2006-06-28 10:37:45 · answer #6 · answered by sonione 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Number 1 if you were raped you should of told your parents as soon as it happened. I think i would probably have to abort. Although it is not the beautiful babies fault, I don't know if I could deal with that. But you could also have it and give it up for adoption. There are some very wonderful couples out there who would love to have a little baby and don't care how it was conceived. BUT TELL YOUR PARENTS NOW, of course they are going to probably be upset that you didn't tell them about the rape sooner.,
2006-06-28 10:37:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd probably have an abortion. But I can't say not unless I were in that situation. I just wouldn't be able to handle it. I would probably miscarry, because I go through anorexic periods that can last for six months. My parents would never be mad or refuse to take care of the child. They'd know it wasn't my fault. My dad would definitely kill whoever did it. When he doesn't know where I am he starts to load his gun, seriously.
2006-06-28 22:45:03 · answer #8 · answered by millancad 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes i would tell my parents rape is aginst the law u know. i was raped as a child so... i know. but if i got pregnant i would keep the baby there is no need to murder a life cause something bad happened but if u dont want the baby give it up for adoption there are many ppl in this world wanting kids that cant have them and will love the baby if u wont
2006-06-28 10:34:05 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this happened to you or someone you know, the police need to be contacted immediately. Rape is a serious crime. As far as your or the persons parents being mad, I sincerely doubt they would be angry at you or the person. The jerk that was the rapist is to blame not the innocent who was raped. Please tell your parents so you can get help. even if its not you, you need to talk to an adult about something this serious, okay?
If you want to talk, I'm here but ask your guardian first.
Good luck, Kiddo.
p.s. Its not the victims fault, ever. Do not let the victim blame herself.
2006-06-28 10:35:00 · answer #10 · answered by ♥♥♥ Pink ♥♥♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋