My boyfriend proposed I said yes. I dont love him. He is a great guy compared to all the jerks I have dated before. He dont drink or smoke. He helps me take care of my 2 young kids. The like him very much. He is a grad student from college. He treats me like a princess & would do anything for me. Im afraid I will not find another great guy like him. Should I just deal with it to have a great husband and a good romodel for my kids. Im only 23 years old.
2006-06-28 10:29:45 · 10 answers · asked by mexchick316 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes absolutely. You will fall in love with him. After 8 years of being married to my "soul mate", the laziness and poverty he provided our family began to weigh heavily on our marriage. Love is not always enough.
2006-06-28 10:52:41 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's a really tough question. I guess I'd have to ask... are you sure you don't love him? Love doesn't always mean "flashing lights" "hearts and flowers" and that stuff. Sometimes love is quiet and comfortable. Does that make any sense? I'm sorry. I'm trying to help. I guess you have to decide if you do love him or if it's just that you like having him do all those great things. He does sound like a good guy, but then again - if you don't love him all that may change. I'd say take a few days to just think about how you'd feel without him. Would you miss him? Do you want to spend the rest of your life with him? I was a single mom, too. I do understand the question. In the end I decided that I really did love the guy, it just wasn't fireworks like in High school. Good Luck.
2006-06-28 17:38:40 · answer #2 · answered by sandysstyles 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you dont love him, dont plan to spend the rest of your life with him unless you want a divorce within a few years. The first year of marriage is hard enough without forcing yourself to love someone because they treat you the best and they treat your kids good. Others will be out there to do the same thing. Give yourself time. Love IS an option, not an obligation.
2006-06-28 17:36:16 · answer #3 · answered by sooner_buckeye79 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmmm well I want to say yes stay with him you might grow to love him because he sounds like a good man, but you cant help who you love and most of the time we tend to fall for the wrong once and if you dont love him dont marry him because its not fair to him you or your kids if you marry him without being in love and then 2 years down the road fall in love with someone else, then what leave him? stay with him and be unhappy?
Have u talked to him about this? I think you should be honest with him tell him u like him alot but arent in love with him yet and you want to wait until your in love with him to get married! I am sure he will be hurt at first but will understand! You guys dont need to brake up just dont rush into getting married until you are both in love. Good Luck
2006-06-28 17:38:15 · answer #4 · answered by connys1976 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people take for granted a guy that sounds as good as he does. Is it that you don't love him or that you feel you don't deserve him? I think it would be unfair to both of you to marry without love, but many people realize that they love them after they lost that good thing. My suggestion would be a long engagement to sort this out within yourself. People lose themselves in raising their children and this may just be the case for you.
2006-06-28 17:36:10 · answer #5 · answered by Jill M 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like me, met this guy 16yr ago, lived together for 16yr. never "felt in love" with him, but nothing wrong with him either. just that I never had a "loving" feeling towards him,
wish I looked more.
had a daughter 1 yr thought no one would want me either.
but I think you need "love" too. or you will regret it too.
just have a long engagment. anyway.
tell him you want to wait on the ceremony.
good luck.
2006-06-28 17:41:07 · answer #6 · answered by cats3inhouse 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why base a marriage on a lie? That's such a horrible thing to do to someone. Who wants to spend their life with someone who doesn't love them? Tell him how you really feel, and tell him marriage would not be fair to either of you.
2006-06-28 17:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by SassySours 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's it going to take for you to love him? It sounds like he has the other bases covered. Why did you agree to get married if you don't love him?
2006-06-28 17:34:50 · answer #8 · answered by Flagger 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO. DONT pls, marry someone who you love, trust me, you are gonna feel guilty later if you are not in love with him. Yea he sounds great and all, but marrying someone when they love you that much and you dont love them, its just not fair.
2006-06-28 17:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by estefany v 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
marry him, maybe you do love him, but don't realize it yet!
2006-06-28 17:38:05 · answer #10 · answered by sorrells316 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋