how do i convince my parents to let me talk to and hang out with guys?

Question

i mean my parents let me talk to guys but i cant talk to them on the phone or really have em over. i just want tips on how to ask my parents for a boy to come over or how to start hanging out with guys. how would you guys be convinced or how would u guys ask if u were in my position and please nothing like fruity like .. mom i need some freedom ... not that stuff... thanks

Answer 1

Well, it may sound fruity, but the book "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens" is a good one. Your parents have 2 concerns in this matter. Your safety and the boys interests. Since you cannot know what the boys are thinking, don't bother telling mom and dad you won't do anything with them. Since you can't change your parents opinion of those boys (or boys in general), don't try. Leave the "mom i need some freedom" in the trash where it belongs. Show your parents you are responsible. Follow their rules. But at the same time, open an honest, rational dialogue about why you want boys over. See if they are willing to compromise. Like letting a boy over if you sit in the living room in full view at all times and not when your parents aren't home. It may be a slow process, but this will work. First try to understand your parents objections. Then work rationally and without emotion on those objections........I'll give you an example.

My dad didn't allow boys over when I was young. I couldn't go to dances, call them on the phone, or even talk about dating. His objections? Premarital sex, drugs, alcohol, and staying out late. Ok, first, staying out late. No problem, curfew.........and I followed it. Second, drugs and alcohol, it's one thing to say you won't do them, and another to not. Since dad wasn't around to see me not take drugs, I pointed out my other responsible acts (Spanish club, Mentoring, 3.6 GPA). Third, premarital sex, ok, again, can't be there all the time. So I let him know what I knew. I let him know I wasn't interested in that sort of thing. And then I let him know what the warning signs were if a boy was pressuring me..........and that I wouldn't allow it. Sure enough, I was dating in no time. I was trusted. And by Senior year, I had a 3 am curfew, a dad who asked how my day went without judging, AND a sense of self-worth.

Answer 2

It really depends how old you are. When I was a young teenager I thought why are my parents so strict about boys? Now I am 26 and I totally understand why they were strict about boys and I think they were right!
I would suggest that you ask to have a small group of boys and girls over with their supervision. Just stick to a simple plan like pizza and a movie. Then, make sure you BEHAVE!! Don't give any reason for them to be uneasy about it. Eventually, after a few small shindigs like that, maybe they will be more comfortable with it.

Answer 3

I had a an identical situation whilst I used to be more youthful. But my mom and dad were not as closed minded. Just invite them over so that they might meet them. Your mom and dad simply wish to guard you however through shutting you off from truth, it is only harming you. Yeah men wish intercourse however a man will simplest cross so far as a woman allows them to. If through a few miracle you get your mom and dad approval, do not cause them to remorse it. Like I stated, have your peers come over and meet them. Sometimes we gotta step out of the boundary to get our mom and dad to snap out of it and get a truth assess.

Answer 4

Well first figure out why they won't let you have them over or call them. To solve the problem you need to know what the problem really is.