how do i tell my girlfriend's parents, and my parents, that my girlfriend is pregnant?

Question

by the way....we're 16

Answer 1

you guys should talk about it first. you and your girlfriend. talk about what you are going to do, are you going to keep it or give it up for adoption.(abortion is so wrong, please don't even consider this) what are your plans for the future. you have to tell them because if she decides to keep it they will be the ones helping you out. i would sit them down with both of you TOGETHER and tell them. i would do it one family at a time so they don't feel the need to blame one another or hold back feelings because the other parents are there. then i would get both of the families together to talk and sort this out. talk about you and the mothers plans. (in the end it is her decision what she wants to do, not her parents if she wants to keep it) i would not go in there to talk to your parents without a plan and with no clue as to what you are going to do. you are going to have to give up any sports that you may play if she decides to keep the baby(unless you have really supportive parents)you will have to get a job and support your child. in the end it is you and your girlfriend that have to make the decision. make it together, try not to get into a fight with her because this will already be hard with your parents and her parents(unless of course she wants to give the baby up and you do not want that, she wants to keep it and you want her to give it away. IF SHE WANTS TO GET AN ABORTION AND YOU DO NOT WANT HER TO.) please do not get an abortion i am begging you. there are many couples that are married and have tried so hard to have children but just cant. they want a child so bad and this would make their world complete. they will love your child as if it were their own. this child deserves a good life and it is your job as a parent to give him or her that. it doesn't matter if you keep it or if you give it away. please take this childs life into consideration. not just your and your girlfriend's. think about what this child would want and what he or she deserves. this child did nothing to deserve to live in a broken home or have his or her life ended due to an inconvienience of time. please take what i have said into consideration. write me if you need anything or if you have any questions. please write me your decision, because i really care. i'll pray for you. God Bless. and remember everything happens for a reason, even though you may not see it right now. God loves you and your child.

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Answer 2

Be calm about it. Very, very, very calm about it. I bet you anything they're going to explode (or be supportive), but all you have to do is stay calm. I suggest that you put the baby up for adoption if you still want to attend school, or if you think you can handle it, see if both of you can take care of the baby, switching of so both of you can attend school. Or you could abort, if that isn't against your beliefs. I'm glad there are guys like you, because a lot of the time, a guy will get a girl pregnant and leave her behind. I'm sure your parents would understand that. Uhhh... if you want or if you don't mind not going to school and then attending college later (and your parents are okay with it) get married, and then tell them. You could also elope, I suppose. It would be difficult, and then reappearing at your parents door step with a 6 year old kid a few years later might be a little cliche.

Whatever it is, I wish you best of luck and I hope it's an adorable baby. Be proud your a dad is all and make sure that you love your girlfriend as much as possible. This is probably harder on her then on you. Just don't panic. Again, best of luck.

Answer 3

Ouch....tricky situation. If there is some way to get them all in the same place at the same time I would tell them together. If not I would tell one set of parents and then immediately go tell the other set of parents. Before telling them you two need to talk and come up with some sort of plan to show them that you are taking this situation seriously.

Answer 4

I can help you out with this because I was 17 in half years old. When I found out I was pregnant. You should get her parents and your parents in the same room and just tell them. They may be upset but you need to tell them the sooner the better. I didn't tell them until my boyfriend's mother to her daughter and then called me and ask me if I was pregnant and I told them. They was mad because I didn't tell them when I found out I was. I hope this helps you out. The best of luck for the both of you.

Answer 5

There is no cool, way of getting around it. Just go ahead and tell them.

If you are worried about how they are going to react do it in public and together. The sooner you tell them, the sooner you will know if they are willing to help cover the expenses associated with it and help with the doc visits and stuff.

Remember the sooner you get this matter resolved, the better for your baby (the mother being stressed is not good for the kid).

Answer 6

ok honey this happened to me when i was 18 and it was my first year of college. anyway here is what i did. i called my mother at work and i told her over the phone. then we went to his house and told his parents late at night. however if you go and bring both parents together and tell them it might go better. make sure the two of you involve talk first before telling. make sure you both stand by what ever your decision is whether you keep the baby or if you decide not to keep the baby, but stand by your decision and stand by each other. For the record i did keep my baby. she is nine and a half today. good luck and if u need to pray about it when stress gets to much just know that it is ok. it helps alot.

Answer 7

You should get your and her parents together, in a private place, like your parent's or her parent's house and just come out with it. But lay some ground rules first, tell them no yelling, and to listen to what you have to say before they say anything. And explain that you two are going to have a baby, and what you two plan on doing about it. Then get their feedback.

Answer 8

just come out and say it you cant hid it wont be much longer she will get big soon.....just be man and tell them people do things every day you made your decision to have sex now you need to get job cause baby's are not cheep....tell them to gather you and your girl sit both parents down at the same time tell one set to meet you at a park or a restaurant and then tell the other one the same thing now you got them all together ....tell them your in love and she pregnant and go from there it may no be easy but its all ready done you cant go back

Answer 9

The two of you need to go to each set of parents together (probably hers first) and just tell them...be prepared for responses that are not all that happy (at least at first). It's going to be a long road ahead if she decides to have the child, and keep it...the two of you have a longer path ahead raising that child, than either of you have presently been alive yourselfs (at least 18 yrs).

Answer 10

Be straightforward about it. Don't beat around the bush, get right to it. It's going to be hard, but you'll work through it. I suggest the whole ripping the bandaid right off effect. Get all the parents together, and both of you tell both sets of parents. From there you will work it out. It's harsh, but it's quick.