I beleive in GOD,. But there is one thing in the bible that is so hard for me to understand. In the bible it says that if you divorce that you can not remarry becuase the person you marry would be commiting adultry. I know that you can get a divorce in GOD'S eye due to adultry and abuse(and it is not defined as physical, verbal, or emotional). But my thing is what if you are not happy any more and you are being verbally and emotionally abused.
But even if the two of you deside to marry that person would be commiting adultry. But I feel that GOD would want all of his children to be happy.
Can anyone please shead some light on this for me.
2006-06-28 09:55:40 · 25 answers · asked by firecrackertx 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
even if you think you are ready for a divorce? I do not want to live the rest of my life alone. I would eventually remarry to the right person.
2006-06-28 09:58:44 · update #1
GOD will forgive anyone who makes a mistake even if you kill someone. So you made a mistake by ending up with someone like that so what GOD will forgive you. I have been married 2 times myself. And only the LORD knows what kinda relationship that I was in the first time. If you wait to long and live like this you will become a cold harted person. My husband now gets upset because when we get into arguments I don't cry and they can be pretty rough sometimes. The reason why is because of my first marriage I just got to the point to where I couldn't take it anymore and I had to get out but I was getting physical abuse. It's not worth messing up your life because of a jerk. The right person will pass you by if you don't make the right move. I am so happy in this marriage and we get along so well most of the time. It has to be really bad for us to get into it. But everyone fusses and argues. Do whatever makes you happy and pray about it and GOD will lead you in the right direction. You are in my thoughts and prayers. Please take this as useful information. I have been there I know. And GOD understands what you are going through as well. Good luck.
2006-06-28 10:17:51 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does want us to be happy, and I am so proud to hear that you believe in him. Adultry has many forms, as well as abuse.
God, I believe would not frown upon someone remarrying after they have been married to an adulter or an abuser. As a matter of opinion, the second marriage maybe blessed if you are willing to give the marriage to him. I believe that marriage is null and voided in His eyes if the believer has been true to their marriage vows, but there partner hasn't. So, anyone marrying that person is marrying that victim is not an adulter in anyway, because the bad marriage did not really exist. What I am trying to say to make a marriage, it's two people who honor their vows. Love, honor, cherish, in sick and in health, not till something else comes along or when they feel like it. It's not a real marriage, so how could they be adulters, if they had never trully been married before. Verbal and emotional abuse is abuse, there is no law that says that you have to be hit to be abuse. Words hurt also. Emotional pain hurts too. Physical abuse is physical, but mental abuse is verbal or emotional. God says abuse, and you are right he didn't not specify, I think he meant any kind of abuse. Just as him meant about adultery, he didn't say physical adultery or emotional adultery, he meant both. Find a good man, who is also a believer in our Lord, Jesus, and God did say alot about that. Believers should marry believers. I will pray for you, and I wish you well and good luck....
2006-06-28 17:15:47 · answer #2 · answered by totallylost 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God does want everyone to be happy and safe. In the bible it also says that you should not plant two different crops next to each other in the same field. God didn't write the bible. People did. You are not committing adultry for ending an unhappy marraige and beginning a happy relationship.
2006-06-28 16:59:07 · answer #3 · answered by poor and in debt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it says in mathew 19 4-9
havent you read , he replied that at the beginning the creator made them male and female, and said for this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh so they are no longer two, but one. therefore what god had joined together, let man not separate.
why then , they asked did moses comand that a man give his wife a certificate of divorce and send him away? jesus replied, moses permitte you to divorce your wives because your hearts were hard. but it was not this way from the begining.
i tell you that anyone who divorces his wife (or husband), except for marital unfaithfulness, and marries another woman (man) commits adultery.
so unless he is being unfaithfull to you, by cheating on you then you would be an adulterer. if the marriage is that bad and god thinks that you are in the position of your husband being unfaithful all you have to do is pray and ask for god to give you that way out if you are able to have on. i hope this helps you.
i have heard alot of people say that you can divorce if its abuse but if you look up mathew 19 4-9 it does not say that, it only says unfaithfullness.
2006-06-28 17:44:19 · answer #4 · answered by Blonds Rock 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I personally beleive that you should not marry untill you know that you will be with this person till death do you part. Let me tell you a story about my husbands aunt and uncle. They met 64 years ago in september. They knew each other for 2 weeks then got married, JUST AFTER 2 WEEKS! But 64 years later they are still together until last saturday night at 9 p.m. she passed away. So see life is funny. You just never know.
2006-06-28 17:00:53 · answer #5 · answered by shorty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, the reason it is that way is so that maybe you think more before getting married and look at your possible life partner and make sure that this is the person you actually want and can spend the rest of your life on. Just because you made a bad decision is not God's fault.
2006-06-28 16:59:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
God's word is what it is, but if you believe in what the Bible say's then you should be happy. You shouldn't depend your feelings on someone or sercumstances you should base it off the word of God.
Love is not a feeling but a commitment. I say pray for this marriage and God will turn things around because He does want his cildren to be happy, but you can't appreciate happiness without there ever having sadness.
2006-06-28 17:04:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is in the Old Testament, before Jesus died for our sins. Just ask God for forgiveness and do what makes you happy. He wants all His children to be happy and treat each other good, but that doesn't happen much these days due to sins of the flesh and Lucifer playing with those desires and sins. You do whats in your heart, God is there as well and always giving you signs of what you should do.
Good luck.
2006-06-28 17:17:05 · answer #8 · answered by sweetsugakb24 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God is merciful and forgiving. You may not re-marry in a church (catholic's for instance will no re-marry a divorcee) but you can choose a Justice of the peace the second time around. be honest and break off your current relationship before engaging into another. Being with somebody else WHILE marry is adultery, not hust re-marrying after divorce.
Good luck
2006-06-28 17:02:32 · answer #9 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it was explained to me this way. you are not bound if there is adultery. now if you remarry you, and you are saved, you should marry a saved person as well. if neither one was saved before the divorce, then you are not bound by the law of GOD. GOD has forgiven you if you have asked for forgiveness. and remember no matter what you do GOD will be with you and guide you thru the tough times. we all disobey and GOD never will forsake us.
2006-06-28 17:02:43 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋