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So this morning i had a drs app. because i wanted to get another paps(sp?) done, because it had been awhile. Well i also had told them that i wanted to get a pregnancy test done too because my period was late. I kinda thought i was but wasnt sure because i was SOO tired all the time, but i thought that was just me getting used to working 3rd shift. Well i go there and i pee in the little cup, needless to say is that it came back postive. So i am pregnant..they said about 5 weeks. I really want to have this baby, but when i told my mom she got upset..really upset. She dont like my boyfriend, and thinks he is a no good guy. He has 2 kids already, one he sees, and the other he pays child support for, but still the babys momma wont let him see his son. I wanna know how i can deal with this situation with my mom because she thinks that for me right now it would be best to have an abortion, or give it up for adoption. I dont wanna do that...i want to have this baby. My boyfriend, when i told

im 18 years old

when i told him he wasnt too happy about it because we are not finaically stable right now for a kid, but we have time to save right? I mean we have nine months. I just wanna know if anyone can help me on how to deal with my mom. She didnt even wanna come home because she didnt wanna argue with me because i was defending my boyfriend. I still live at home with her, and she thinks that it wouldnt be best for me. I know my boyfriend and i could both do it, make it on our own. It just dont want to hurt my mom anymore, and i want to come to a deal with her because this sucks. any help would be the greatest! Thanks guys!

Answer 1

Hon, as concerned as you are about your mom, you have to remember that you are also a parent now, and your primary responsibility is to your child, not to your mother. Your baby is depending on you for love and protection. If you need some encouragement in doing the right thing, please visit these sites:

Photos and facts about your baby's development:
http://www.justthefacts.org/clar.asp
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-2-prenatal.html
http://www.studentsforlife.uct.ac.za/foetal%20dev%20photos.html
http://news.bbc.co.uk/2/hi/in_pictures/3847319.stm

A four-minute, must-see video on abortion:
http://www.abort73.com/HTML/I-A-4-video.html

Photos of abortions:
http://www.cbrinfo.org/Resources/pictures.html

Abortion stories:
http://abortiontv.com/Words/truestoriesfrom-mothers.htm

Abortion risks:
http://www.abortionfacts.com/reardon/effect_of_abortion.asp
http://www.standupgirl.com/site/index.php?option=com_content&task=view&id=218&Itemid=40

Abortion deaths:
http://www.lifedynamics.com/Pro-life_Group/Pro-choice_Women
http://www.afterabortion.info/news/abortiondeaths.html
http://www.lifeissues.org/ru486/deaths.htm

Free, confidential help at a pregnancy center near you (referrals for financial, medical, legal, and housing assistance; free pregnancy tests and ultrasounds; free maternity and baby supplies; pregnancy, parenting, and adoption information; counseling and emotional support):
http://www.optionline.org/advantage.asp

Support for pregnant teens:
http://standupgirl.com/site/index.php

Answer 2

If you are responsible enough to care for the baby on your own, I would try to care for the baby. If not, it would be best to give it up for adoption. At least it would have a good home and family. PLEASE do not have an abortion. I know that it might seem like the best option right now, but you will only regret it and think about what your child could have been had you not killed it. Just think about it. By the way, the baby's heart starts beating at the end of 4 weeks.

Answer 3

First of all this is your baby, it doesn't matter what others think the baby is yours. Don't let people pester you so much that you end up making the wrong choice by giving it up for adoption or having an abortion. I'd say that you need to find a way to make yourself and the baby financially stable, because you never know what could happen. #1 Get medicare #2 sign up at Publix and they will send you all kinds of coupons for baby foods, wipes, diapers, a book ect. #3 Find out if there is a Baby Love in your area because they will give you free diapers, furniture, clothes, formula (incase you don't or can't breast feed), bottles, blankets, cribs...everything and all you have to do is read a little booklet, watch a movie, memorize some Bible verses, or volunter for an hour and that will give you points towards getting the free things!! It is so easy, it's a wonderful organization! Go to Google and type in Baby Love and just look for that organiztion. It's in the USA.

God bless you! If you'd like I can put in a prayer request for you at my church, let me know.

Answer 4

Okay you will need to reassure your mom that you will be raising your child and not her. If you do not want to have an abortion don't. Just keep in mind that your boyfriend already has two kids and could not make it work with them so you may be left flying solo before you know it. If you want your mom to trust in you then you are going to have to show her that you are responsible. You need to be out of her house you cannot expect to raise a child in your mothers home. You need to make a plan and stick to it. I wish you and yours the best of luck in whatever it is you decide. Can I ask how old you are just out of curiosity

Answer 5

The only way that your mom's opinion won't matter is if you move out of the house and start taking care of yourself. You have to prove to her that you and your boyfriend are mature enough and stable enough to take care of a child together. However, if you're still living under her roof, she can't make you have an abortion (especially since you're 18), but she can decide to not help you and make your life pretty miserable.

Answer 6

when I was 18 neither my parents nor the father of the baby wanted me to keep it. I ended up getting an abortion I will regret for the rest of my life. Don't listen to ANYONE!!! If u have to, u can do this on ur own! Ur old enough to take responsibilty. Love ur baby... don't consider termination

Answer 7

you should learn 2 use UAR own mind. the guy has two kids already if he has drama with the 2 babies mommies now what do u think going to happen to u when you have this child do he love u are what have he ever told u that he do? what ever u decided make sure its what u want????????

Answer 8

'Islam' is an arabic note, which skill 'peace obtained through filing your will to God'. Islam is got here upon in the hearts of each human being in this international, besides the undeniable fact that the irony is in uncomplicated phrases some note of it.

Answer 9

WHATEVER U DO...DON'T GET AN ABORTION!!!!!!!! whoever came up with abortions is stupid!!! with this...even if u lyke, always listen to your mom...DONT THIS TIME!!!! keep the baby... wether its a boy or a girl...it will thank u some day for not giving it up. if u do...it will b miserable.

Answer 10

nothing you tell your mom will change the way she views your bf, so you both need to make the best decision thats best for you and let your boyfriend show your mom by doing that he can be a good father for your baby! i wish you the best and don't stress its not good for your lil one! god bless