ive bin with my girl for a while, i love her body and our sex, but for the past couple months ive noticed guys in a way i didnt use to. i've bin thinking about guys every now and then and i feel kinda sick for it, i think its a phase, does ne one have any advice, or know how long this will last, im starting to not mind thinking of the same gender, but i know i want to have a normal lust, instead of 1/2 and 1/2.......does ne one else feel this way? im not asking for permision, i just want to know if i can lose these urges
2006-06-28 09:31:51 · 20 answers · asked by Nameless K 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It is normal when starting to awaken sexually to start to notice that you find others attractive and you are attracting others also. It can even be attraction to the same sex. Most people feel this way even though they won't admit it.
Don't try to repress it or chose one way or the other in your feelings. It is the commitments that you make in your life that will ultimately matter the most. Feelings come and go like a rain cloud. And sometimes when it rains, it pours. Who knows what will grow when the clouds clear up and the sun reappears.
2006-06-28 09:38:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might just be a phase, if you are an adult and this is only just now appearing, and you have previously only found females attractive. There is probably no need to view it as an actual illness - no one has proven that there is any physiological basis for homosexual desires (and God knows they've tried...).
Even if you view such desires as abnormal - and it sounds like they are for you, compared to before - there is also no need to condemn yourself for them. Your situation has simply changed such that being straight is a choice for you rather than a "must".
That having been said, the major religions of the world do teach that we have a choice about what we do with our sexual desires, and that our choice should be to refrain from acting on them outside of marriage(1).
So the question becomes, what to do about the desires that are there? The sex drive is a powerful thing, so in order to live successfully without acting on it, you have to be *really* convinced that it's the right thing to do, it has to arise out of your relationship with God.
You need to realize that lust is not ultimately a sexual sin - it is simply a form of greed (short for 'idolatry').(2) So that the thing to do is occupy yourself with actively choosing to do the opposite: worship God - above all, by offering your body to Him as a living sacrifice(3) - as well as glorify Him and give thanks to Him(4).
If you do this, you will find the strength to be straight by choice, regardless of the presence or absence of other desires, and it will also positively affect the purity of your relationships with women. And I call that a good deal :-)
2006-06-28 17:00:07 · answer #2 · answered by songkaila 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could alway try what I did. Push the thoughts and feelings away as far as you can for as long as you can and if they don't go away or if they come back then you'll just have to accept them. That's a pretty good sign that you're atleast bi. I felt that way for a very long time but nomatter what I did to try to make it go away it kept coming back. Ofcourse, doing it that way can be stressful. A quick way to find out though would probably be to sleep with a guy. It honestly doesn't do me any good to know that I'm bi though because I married my husband when I was 17.
2006-06-28 17:23:48 · answer #3 · answered by guttermouthkcuf 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is really not a problem. Maybe you are bi... maybe not but either way its not a problem. I am sure you have been with girls and found other girls attractive and chosen not to act on it while in a relationship. Give yourself a break either way. Everyone falls somewhere in the scale and it really is normal no matter what anyone says. Your sexuality bi, gay or straight is also NOTHING you can change no matter what anyone says.
2006-06-28 16:47:15 · answer #4 · answered by poor and in debt 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey you cannot hide who you really are, but if you really wanna be one way instead of Bi , it will take time and will power to stop the urges from bisexuality or homosexuality. It can be done my friend it just takes you to really wanna change who you are. But be honest with yourself you cant live a life of lies. Its unhealthy and can be very devastating to live a life you really dont want to.
2006-06-28 16:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by think_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's called bisexuality (or, in your case, being bi-curious), and most people have at least a little of it, no matter what some jerks will tell you. It's not evil, it's not sick, it's just something you're a little curious about. If you don't want to act on it, don't. You choose what you do.
2006-06-28 16:38:21 · answer #6 · answered by triviatm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a "noticing" that you WANT to be with them sexually, or maybe it's more of an envious noticing? Figure that out, because you could be paranoid for nothing but being normal and being jealous of what other men have.
2006-06-28 16:35:31 · answer #7 · answered by your_perfect_enemy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hell no my friend, the urge will get stronger once you have slept with a man you will never go back to a woman again trust me,
its okay to be gay, and its better to be honest with yourself and others that know you/ there is nothing nicer than a smooth 7 inches in your mouth and the orgasms are greeeeeeeeat...
2006-06-28 16:47:11 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you are bisexual and will find yourself attracted to both guys and gals. Don't fight it, let it take you where it will. You may find one day that guys no longer interest you...or that chicks no longer do...if you try to be someone you are not, happiness will likely be tough to find.
2006-06-28 16:36:14 · answer #9 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know if you will lose the urges, but I hope that you figure everything out.
2006-06-28 16:35:42 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋