Help My husband's family hates me. What should I do?

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My husband and I have a fourteen year age difference which many people including his family hate.I really want to impress them when we go over.What should I wear?I'm preggers and its casual
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I want advice to make them like me and fashion tips PLEASE!

Help they HATE my guts. I don't know what to do. They are really materalistic so I want to impress them. HELP! I sware I'm so nice to them and they ignore me and don't even refer to me as their sister in law just as young Summer. They talk to me the same way they do to their kids!!!!!!!!!

My husband and I dated for three and a half years to the person who said that things moved quickly.

He is older

Answer 1

are you kidding?

your in-laws hate you and you think clothes are going to help?!

good luck...

Answer 2

Marrying the family.. HAHA... well, You cant make a person like you, It's up to them to accept you.. In the meantime... if you haven't discussed your feelings with your husband, You should, maybe even come up with some.. game plans, to help avoid any uncomfortable situations, always remain friendly and polite, offer to help out, and be yourself. As for clothing.. and casual wear, I wouldn't worry too much about dressing to impress his family. Wear something YOU feel comfortable in, because when you feel comfortable, than you'll feel more relaxed, as well. and whatever you do don't try any new styles out on that day. It may have you feeling very self-conscious. Remember to just keep smiling no matter what. Also, look to your husband for any extra re-insurance you may need he is your emotional supporter. And if it makes you feel better discuss likes/dislikes & traditions his family may have so you can feel a little more comfortable about the events of the day.

Don't worry .. about what other's think as long as you love one another, everything else will work itself out. :D

Answer 3

Honestly, I wouldn't do either outfit since they already dislike you. See, they are going to judge EVERY-thing you do right now and both outfits you have paired with heels. And since you are pregnant, they are going to feel that wearing heels is irresponsible in your condition.

Plus, the jeans in the first outfit have the "west coast chopper" symbol on the pockets and are pretty tight - a bit to teeny bopper. The second outfit is way to sexy for a pregnant woman going to a casual gathering with a family that hates her.

I like the top in the first option. Pair it with some cute capris and stylish FLAT sandals. Find a mature look with out sacrificing fashion.

Good luck.

*** Addition. Just read your further details. If they are materialist, I assume that they are snobs. And the best way to deal with snobs is NOT to be so nice to them. I've hung out with MANY snobs (young and old) and the only way to get their respect - if you can - is to be a bit cold to them with a touch of snob. DO NOT go out of your way to be nice or do nice things for them because they will assume you are weak and they will walk all over you. Be pleasant, but not "friendly". But always be respectful. Good luck.

Answer 4

Go with the first outfit, but change the shoe to a summer flat or lower healed sandal. Heels are going to make your feet uncomfortable after a while and therefore make you crabby..... making it much harder to deal with his unhappy family. I would try to just be as nice as you can and let them get used to the idea that you are here to stay. Don't engage in family gossip or tell secrets about your husband. Be pleasant and smile. If you are far enough along to have sonogram pictures, take them but only show them if someone shows interest in asking about the pregnancy. Just be yourself and I'm sure they will warm up to you. Curious... are you older or is he?

Answer 5

I thnk you should stop trying so hard. If you and your hubby do not have this issue between you, then no one else should too. And for any reason they do, then that is a issue that they have that they need to work on. It simply is not your problem.

So about the dresses, I am not even going to look at it. Just weare what you love. What you feel is best for you.

Answer 6

Try being you, be comfortable.
A little advise, speaking from experience (DON'T GO)
If the reason they hate you is your age difference nothing is going to change that.
Your husband should support you and if he knows there is a problem stay at home and enjoy and evening with your husband.
Do you really think an outfit is going to change their minds?

Answer 7

Ok straighten your hair,but smokey makeup but not to much,wear chanel studs,carry a chanel handbag,wear a medium length skirt & buisness shirts with cover ups & some $300 chanel buissness shoes but your hair in a bun.If not go with 2nd choice.

Answer 8

First of all u did not marry your husband's family u married him. I know u would feel a lot better if u had a good relationship with his family but don't let that ruin your marriage as long as your husband is supportive of u.

Answer 9

You should wear something you feel comfortable in. There is really no way to make people like you. Just be yourself. Your husband fell in love with you and his family will eventually see what he sees in you. You said you are pregnant. His parent should start to like you, you are giving them a grandchild!

Answer 10

Depends on the situation. If they gathering is casual then definintly the jeans. Otherwise, dress up.
Regardless you'll be glowing from your pregnancy.
Good luck!

Answer 11

You shouldn't go out of your way to impress anyone. If they don't like you and can't accept you for who you are then fvck 'em! And whatever you do, don't let them spend any length of time with your baby when it's born!