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Question

I have to ask if you have a wife,what keeps you faithful and what would keep you faithful if you are a cheater,not all men are pigs,but i wanted to ask to see what some of you men have to say,maybe this could help out some of the women out here who are men haters,instead of them learning somthing from it

Answer 1

I now that this is a bit long, but it’s hard to answer this question in three or four sentences or a little paragraph.

We have to look at cheating from a different perspective. First we have to ask the question…Why do people cheat? Some people cheat because they have no sense of commitment, compulsive sexual behavior, fear, among a few other reasons.

Cheating reasons among long term and married couples, generally indicates problems in the relationship. Problems that the couples is not dealing in an ineffective way. Some couples get so accustomed to the problem issue that they learn to live with it and becomes part of their everyday lifestyle. For example, people not feeling satisfied emotionally or sexually. It has been said over and over gain that married people don’t go outside their relationship unless they are not getting something they want at home. I really believe that that is true.

We live in a society in which people live in a constant state of unrealistic expectations and lack of responsibility. In particular when it comes to love. People, in particular young people, expect love to be magical and to last for ever. They think that everything it’s going to be easy and pretty. But then life starts hitting them with reality, with the struggles of every day life. Like dealing with financial strain, kids (if any), time apart due to business travel, etc. So then they start wondering if they are with the right person, because in they fantasy world, if they were with the right person, “we would never argue“ they think.

People also have a lack of responsibility for they own happiness. I’m sure we all have heard people say things like “I want to find the person or I’ve found the guy/girl who is going to make me happy for the rest of my life.” Come on, no one can come into your life and make you happy if you are unhappy. You have to take the responsibility of your own happiness into your own hands. If not, you likely to start wondering and having seconds thought about the person you are with. Not because they may be something with that person, but because we built unrealistic ideas for that person that no real human being will ever be able to live up to. A good example is a guy who marries a great looking women with a killer body, he expects her to marry him, age, bear 2 or 3 children and still have the same killer body. Unrealistic for most people!

Another thing is something I call the “disposable society.” We now live in a society that has embraced anything that is disposable. If something breaks, then we throw it away and get a new one. Everything is that way now days. How many people get their TV set fixed when it breaks down compared to 40 years ago? Not a lot! We get rid of it and we go buy a new one. The same is true with cars, baby dippers, and on and on.

Unfortunately people have the same disposable attitude towards relationships. If it doesn’t work, we throw it away and get a new one, or find someone else who can satisfy us emotionally or sexually. Sometimes it’s easier to dump someone or cheat than to confront our lover about their lack of emotional support or lack of sexual skills.

So if your love life in not magical anymore, you are not happy about the outcome of some expectations you had for the relationship or the person you are with, you lack responsibility for your own actions in love life, and you have a disposable attitude, sooner or later you’ll look for someone else who can satisfy those needs. You’ll look for someone who will be “perfect.” As if there was such a thing!

Answer 2

What keeps me faithful? Love. I honestly love my wife with all I have. Cheaters, pre say, are just people who have fallen out of love, but deny that they have. I really hate to see women hating all men, or vice versa because of a past cheating spouse/partner. My first wife cheated on me, but I had to realize that that was what she felt she needed to do to be happy. We ended the relationship and wish each other the best now. As crazy as it sounds, learing forgiveness is the key. We can't move forward in life if we don't let go of the past. I wish you luck.

Answer 3

love and a moral foundation. Sometimes temptation gets the better of both men and women and it happens but that's alot different than going out looking for it. If a man truly loves his wife, he wouldn't think of going out to cheat on her. Not a man with any morals. My wife passed away over 26 years ago and I still haven't cheated on her. I wouldn't mind getting married again if the right woman came my way but until then, morality is everything it's cracked up to be.

Answer 4

I think people cheat because the consequences have changed. In the past it was not acceptable to get caught cheating on your spouse or even to get divorced. It was considered an insult or embarrassment and you were a failure. Now, people think nothing of it. Our values have changed and it is slowly deteriorating our society.

Answer 5

My Vows 2 GOD to cherish her, honor her, love her as Christ loves the Church. Without GOD I would be nothing, but if he lives in your heart there is nothing he can't help you through.

That's the only way I kept from cheating on my wife, even when she was doing the opposite.

Answer 6

loving the person and making sure before u marry that she is the one, take the time to talk to each other and ask questions, but it is really so simple, when u love ur mate, u wont cheat

Answer 7

no i don't have a wife anymore(divorced) i was married 7 years an i never cheated....never even thought about it