my ex husband and I have really been talking to each other about maybe trying to work things out, and we have 2 kids together.
2006-06-28 09:05:50 · 54 answers · asked by mbg25 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'd tell him just to get it out in the open.
2006-06-28 09:07:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well i think you need to tell her,if he is truthful with you then why hasnt he left her yet?Or is he keeping her around just incase it doesnt work with you,do you like being second best?Does it feel good knowing that this girl is being backed stabbed,would you like it?Think of what kind of guy does this to a women,dont use the kids as a weak point or the mastakes you guys make.These kids could grow happy with you 2 apart if you kept it clean with no fighting and tryed to stay friends.I think you should tell him she called and maybe he needs to talk to her.He isnt just being the bad guy by not being upfront you are too.Sounds to me this other women is brave to call you to find out and hopfuly she is smarter then both of you and move on
2006-06-28 09:16:01 · answer #2 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Umm, doesn't that kind of mean that he's deceiving her? While in a relationship with her?? And, what exactly was it that split the two of you??? (Feel free to not answer that last one!)
Yes, he should know; if for no other reason, so he will (hopefully) realize that he can't play it both ways.
And, YOU should proceed very cautiously with him. He doesn't have the right to keep a girlfriend on the side while negotiating a reconciliation with you. That is using her, and doesn't put forth much sincerity towards you.
2006-06-28 09:13:30 · answer #3 · answered by M Huegerich 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that she call. If you and him are trying to work it out. Then she don't need to be out in the dark about it. He needs to tell his gf, that he working it out with his ex. She is the one, who is going to get hurt and angry about it.
I would want to be told, that my bf is working to get him and his ex together. I wouldn't won't to be a jackass in the middle of it. I think, if there was a hope and a chance for you both. Then he should not had gotten with anyone else.
2006-06-28 09:19:18 · answer #4 · answered by kygl28 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You two will always be in each others life since you two have kids together. I would inform him of the call from the girlfriend. She should understand that you two will have to communicate. Maybe she's insecure.
2006-06-28 09:09:13 · answer #5 · answered by strawberry 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What the heck are you doing talking to your ex about getting back together if he still has a girlfriend. Are you going to trust him if he was doing the same and you were his wife?
2006-06-28 09:15:06 · answer #6 · answered by Fishgutts 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes you should and he should let her know that he wants to try and work things . He needs to be honest with both of you and dont let him play you for a fool, if he really wanted to make things work out he would leave her 1st then you and him can talk and find ways to fix your relationship.
2006-06-28 09:10:36 · answer #7 · answered by think_20 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes tell him that she called and she needs to mind her business sorry sweeite but if you got two kids together and welling to work it out don't let anyone stand in ur way with him it doesn't matter who...ur kids come first (and only get back together cause u do see a future with him, not because he is with someone else)
2006-06-28 09:26:49 · answer #8 · answered by janie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, let her know....be honest with her. And don't get back together with him. now he's proven to be untrustworthy. Just because he wants to get back with you won't make him a better husband or father. There is a reason why you've divorced him, and chances are he hasn't changed at all. Find you someone who is worthy of you......it's better to be single and lonely, than to be married and miserable. Best of luck to you.
2006-06-28 09:10:50 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh yes, she is calling you because she don't have the hold on him.... You my dear are a threat.......lol...... Sweetie you have kids together, you are going to be in this man's life the rest of your life cause of the children....... She has no business calling you at all, about anything...... Go for the gold and work it out with your x........ Best of luck to you.............
2006-06-28 09:13:44 · answer #10 · answered by ladybug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yep, tell him.....it's his place to handle it. You might also want to take a closer look at a man that has a girlfriend and pursuing his wife. I know that feels better than the other way around....but still not a man that's totally honest and upfront. The girlfriend has a right to know. And, again.....it's his place to tell her.
2006-06-28 09:10:29 · answer #11 · answered by wendy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋