How do you tell your spouse they are irresponsible?

Question

I don't know what his problem is.Time management or something! he just got a new job, took him 2 years to find it! And he's been late 4 times already. I know he watches the kids during the day and runs a small business but why is he always late? And why is the house a mess? Put the dishes in the washer during your pee break or something. I work full-time, come home and take care of my kids and clean up. I get to bed around 10:30pm, how is it I do it? he's terrible at managing time, money, business, and stress.
I try and talk to him but he gets offended and says, "Okay, I understand can we drop it?" I tell him that;s his pride talking.
How do I put an end to this?

Answer 1

"honey, you are irresponsible and i am a nagging *****...either we come to some form of consensus or we are gonna be miserable"

Answer 2

Keep telling him he is irresponsible, late for things, doesn't clean up and all the other complaints. His response will be goodbye.
Put the dishes in the washer during your pee break! You can't be serious. My wife tells me that she gets told you are not my mother. It sounds like he works off shift and has to go in during the day or night. On top of that he runs a business during the day and watches the kids. If he's working two businesses you should be cleaning at night in your off hours. If hes making money and watching the kids he's working three jobs. Its so nice for you to have a normal schedule.You come home after he's been with the kids and running a small business the first thing out of your mouth is the house is dirty. You have adopted an attitude where you are perfect and he is inadequate. Keep it up and he will act out like the bad child you are treating him as. Is it any wonder he is offended. You've already figured out hes shut you out. He does not want to hear it. I know I would not. When was the last time you asked him how you can help instead of pointing out the failings. You already said he does not manage stress well. Do you not recognize that everything you describe only increases his stress level. Do you really want to be a cause of that? You can stop this by being a helpful wife instead of his mother. Keep up this attitude and he will start looking for some peace and happiness elsewhere.

Answer 3

I am in the same situation my husband though is never late but I feel as a nag telling him to always pick up after himself and to help clean up. Just flat out tell him and maybe ask him if he remembers what you told him....give it a little time to see if it sets in.

GOOD LUCK!!!

Answer 4

Just tell him, its simple. Some people never do get it together. I ws married to a girl just like your husband. She's the type that will be late to her own funeral

Answer 5

You won't until you get counseling. Everyone puts up with his late crap, so he does what he wants to do. He knows how he is and he's not willing to do better. Counseling for you both!

Answer 6

I'm afraid there is not much you can do about it. He may not be multi task oriented like most women.

Answer 7

make a list and keep track of all the things he does and then show him