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i am having this problem so i want 2 divorce him , but since m and him hav a child i dunno.

2006-06-28 08:58:15 · 17 answers · asked by linsey 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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Divorce his sorry a$$. He can still be the father of your child without being your husband. It happens all the time, husbands cheat, have a child with the other women and then his wife drops him like a hot potato. You deserve better. If you stay with this man, it will teach your child that that is how women are to be treated and I know that you don't want that

2006-06-28 09:05:22 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

Sometimes u jus have to do what u gotta do. I personally wouldn't want to be with him after that.. I'm married wit three kids and it would crush me to find out not only was my husband havin an affair but he also fathered a child. If u feel that u can trust him and get pass this then u should work on it.. But I honestly feel that u should go. It's a lot easier said than done but U have to do what u feel is best for you and ur child. I think some ppl get confused when there are kids involved but believe me u don't have to accept being treated badly by ur spouse jus because u have a child. Did he think about that before he went and slept wit someone else and fathered another child. NO. So u or ur child shouldn't have to pay for his screw up.

2006-06-28 16:23:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I can't believe you even have to ask that question. Why would you want to stay married to a liar, cheater, and someone who clearly doesn't mind hurting you. He had no regard for your feelings or your life together when he had an affair and fathered a child with someone else.
Obviously you don't really have a marriage if he could do all of that to you. You deserve better, you should absolutely divorce him and move on with your life. There is no reason to put up with that just for the sake of the kid. Trust me kids know more than they think they do and they feel all of the stress and tension between you and your husband.

2006-06-28 16:07:59 · answer #3 · answered by Fed Up! 2 · 0 0

Wow, that is about the most hurtful thing your partner could ever of done! I really am sorry you have to go through this. I think that as hard as it probably is for you, it's time to move on. Just think about your child for a moment. Do you want him or her to grow up thinking that this kind of thing is normal or acceptable in a marriage? Your child can forgive his father, as well as you for yourself. Although you need to show what the outcome of this kind of thing will do. Whats done is done. So now you have to go on. Also there will be a lot of heated fighting from here on out. Your child will be damaged from this, so will you. You are better off taking your child, raising him in the most stable way that you can. Single mom's can do it. It is much better than them being trapped in the middle of this situation. Then he can have his own relationship with his father too. You deserve better, keep your head up! Good luck...:)

2006-06-28 16:12:19 · answer #4 · answered by Emily :) 3 · 0 0

Well, you have a lot to think about. You could divorce on the grounds of adultery since you have proof. Or you can choose to forgive him and go from there. Now understand that you have to be a part of this child's life and part of your household income will go to this child in the form of child support. Please encourage him to handle his responsibility. And also if he wants the marriage to work he will have to stop seeing this woman on a romantic level. Good luck.

2006-06-28 16:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by kitcat 6 · 0 0

He knocked up another woman and you don't know whether or not to divorce him??? Oh, sweetie...please don't stay for the sake of your child...give your baby a better environment to grow up in...and let him share custody so your child doesn't have to grow up without a father. Give yourself the respect he failed to give you and stand tall and WALK AWAY! You deserve much better than this. So does your baby.

2006-06-28 18:23:15 · answer #6 · answered by auntcookie84 6 · 0 0

If you think you can forgive and forget, then go for it. I, however, would have a hard time with trusting him ever again. I say, move on, and let him pay child support on both kids. You can find someone else, and he can still be your child's father.

(oh, and get checked for std's...obviously he didn't use protection)

2006-06-28 16:10:19 · answer #7 · answered by CountryGirl 2 · 0 0

He can be a father to his child without the 2 of you being married. What kind of example is he setting for his child. Men are so freakin triffling.

2006-06-28 16:02:24 · answer #8 · answered by confusedinphilly 1 · 0 0

You have to get out and take care of yourself and not let your life be put on hold because he made his bed. Now the man must lie in it. He can see your child anytime he wants but you deserve to be with someone that won't do this type of betrayal. I am so sorry that you are going through this. Please take care of yourself and your child. Let him live his pathetic life.

2006-06-28 16:11:21 · answer #9 · answered by blondiebella 3 · 0 0

Girl i would hit that door running. Just because you have a kid together doesn't mean that you have to stay with him.He is going to have a baby by another woman.Hello......Run......Run like hell and take your baby with you.

2006-06-28 16:27:14 · answer #10 · answered by TinkerBell 3 · 0 0

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