I make about 1/2 what he does yearly, and the last 2 times we went out for dinner, he casually left the entire bill to me.
Is he being a cheap A** or and am I being stupid, or should he at least offer to pay his part. He has taken me out many times, and I have always offered to pay my portion of the bill, but lately for some reason he just leaves the whole thing to me. He makes about 100,000. a year.
2006-06-28 08:44:23 · 11 answers · asked by happydawg 6 in Social Science ➔ Other - Social Science
Ok, we have been dating for several years and we have sex. a lot of it, and he is known for a hx of being cheap. For instance he writes $50-100. checks out to his family members for Christmas and bought me a cartoon video because he thought it was cute. Then after I told him off for being such a miser, he told me I didn't understand. I am an intelligent person. I usually tell him what I think, but at this point it has gotten so ridiculous, I am wondering if he is demented or just seeing what he can get by with.
2006-06-28 10:25:29 · update #1
Yes. I think when I am having intimacy with a man, they owe me something more than a kiss, but I am wondering what is going thru his head.
2006-06-28 10:28:03 · update #2
Yeah, he's being cheap. Next time, ask the waiter for seperate bills; that way, he'll at least pay for his own share. If this is a date, dump his cheap butt already.
2006-06-28 08:48:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Typically, the person doing the inviting should pay the bill.
Not knowing this guy, it sounds like he's either a real miser or he's not considerate. If there is enough interest in him that you can overlook these qualities and get past hoofing the bill each time you go out, than bon appetit!
2006-06-28 16:05:51 · answer #2 · answered by Big Blue 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two people should pay the bill unless one volunteers to pay the whole bill. Dating etiquette is like assuming..."A** out of u and me". You should ask him for his reason(s).
What he makes a year and what you make doesn't matter. He may make more but have less after expenses (voluntary and involuntary). The frequency of your outings may be a factor. How may outings are too 'many' to him and how many are too 'many' to you.
One more question comes to my male mind: Did he have intercourse with you yet? If so, he may be setting up his exit by sticking you with the bill. He knows you want him to pay it all most of the time.
2006-06-28 16:41:42 · answer #3 · answered by thenewrevolutionary 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes, he's mean and you're kind. He knows that. I was madly in love with a man, trying not to accept that he wasn't mean. He would pay for meals, (in cheap places!), but never sent birthday or christmas cards- and the first christmas I knew him I got nothing, not even a card!
I'm not with him anymore- because people who are mean with money are often mean with other things too, and I got fed up with it.
You need to tell him that he should pay at least when you go out- I think you're worth it, and he should too!
Good luck!
2006-06-28 15:51:48 · answer #4 · answered by loobyloo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are they real "dates" or just friends going out? If they are dates, he should pay. If not, pay your share. If he leaves the whole bill for you, just give him your share and let him settle up the rest with the restaurant.
He might think you prefer to pay your way but that's no excuse for dumping the whole thing on you. Ask him! And quit going out with him if you don't like his answer!
2006-06-28 15:53:48 · answer #5 · answered by sandwest 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok, this is just my opinion but, if he is the one that made the suggestion to go out, he should be the one to pay the bill. If it is a mutual decision, then discuss it before going out who will pay the bill or if you are going dutch (spliting the bill).
2006-06-28 16:06:59 · answer #6 · answered by usmcsemperfi68 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The man should always pay, unless it is his birthday. In that case the girl should pay. ha, ha, ha.
2006-07-05 09:08:45 · answer #7 · answered by christina r 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump him, and admit that you were only dazzled by his bank account.
As far as the intimacy...well..you had fun too, didn't you?
2006-07-05 12:48:02 · answer #8 · answered by bitterballad 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my opinion, if you ask him out you should pay and if he asks you out he should pay.
2006-06-28 15:48:13 · answer #9 · answered by Michael Goodfellow 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If they're friends...DUTCH. If dating...the man.
2006-07-04 23:47:13 · answer #10 · answered by grateteecher 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋