ive been with this gentleman for 8 years now and im ready to quit
dating and get married and i strongley beleave he does not. ive wasted too much of my life with him and all i get is excuses.
he keeps procrastonationg makeing every excuse i have done all too much is there any chance at all last call .
2006-06-28 08:23:50 · 8 answers · asked by angel 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You have given this guy more than enough time to show his true feelings for you. It seems that he wants all the benefits of having a wife, but without the commitment and resposibility which goes along with the job. Ask this guy point blank what his intentions are, and that you are not wasting anymore time on a dead end relationship without commitment. If he loves you, he will marry you,if not, then you made one of the biggest mistakes in you life, and wasted 8 years for nothing.
2006-06-28 08:30:42 · answer #1 · answered by WC 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, as long as you're with him, he knows how far he can take it. He wants a relationship, but not a full binding; if something goes wrong, he can get out with minimal liability or turmoil. It's kinda like why buy milk when you got the cow at home. Not calling you a cow, but if it is a relationship of convenience, then he won't take the extra steps to make it blossom. He is not afraid of commitment, but the risk involved. He is not ready to step up to the plate and make your relationship stronger.
Unfortunately, that's where ultimatums come into play. It's a sticky situation because you obviously want to take it further and be at a particular position in life, and it looks like he might not want the same.
It might be wise to ask him where you stand in his life. If it brings an argument to the table, then you know things are very shaky. Let him know that you aren't pressuring him. Let him know that you love him and you just want to know where you are in his life; let him know that you want more, and ask him what he wants. Of course he might throw some dodge tactics, but you have to get the answers you need to know whether the train is going to pull into the station or get derailed.
2006-06-28 15:36:04 · answer #2 · answered by L Jeezy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You deserve to have what you want in a relationship. After eight years it's obvious he's not interested in marrying you. Take a look at the depth of your relationship and decide if you are wasting time. I don't know why he's not interested; maybe his parents had a bad marriage, maybe he's never going to grow up, maybe he's keeping one foot out the door. It doesn't matter. You want different things. Make your own happiness.
2006-06-28 15:28:43 · answer #3 · answered by Super Rach 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Eight years and still nothing? Honey, you can't wait forever. I'd sit him down and ask him where he thinks the relationship is going. Ask what he sees in your future together. If doesn't picture the two of you getting married, having babies, growing old, etc etc, I'd say it's time to move on.
2006-06-28 15:28:15 · answer #4 · answered by Beth 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes ,break up move out & start dating someone else -if it was meant to be he will propose in no time -if it wasnt dont waste another day -go out &LIVE!
2006-06-28 15:28:13 · answer #5 · answered by CoC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'll answer this tomorrow.
oh, Tomorrow never comes.
It will always be tomorrow
2006-06-28 15:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by Eye Mugly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
than quit if there's no where to go........ u've already try getting him to get married...... maybe he'll change his mind with a different approach
2006-06-28 15:34:14 · answer #7 · answered by that1aznchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
time to cut him loose - he obviously has commitment problems
2006-06-28 15:26:55 · answer #8 · answered by island3girl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋