I found out that my wife was sneaking out at night, took her lover a family funeral (while I kept our son for three days), was not intimate or even sleeping next to me for over a month, put up with her major depressive disorder, she allows me to set up a marriage counseling cession with a preacher, rejected prayer, and tells me she isn't aroused by me anymore! So I GOT THE HINT and LEFT her with everything but my clothes, tv, and playstation & now she is telling people a sob story about me leaving my son when she pushed me away! the latest drama is 3 days ago I found out she took a closed account check and forged my name onto it, took it to another bank and cashed it out for 100 dollars......Irony of this is I had to report the incident and file it where she works...the POLICE DEPARTMENT!......Why couldn't she just tell me that she had moved on instead of letting me try over and over to get things straight? I did so much for her & I loved her so much!
2006-06-28 08:07:11 · 7 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Because people are never happy when they have something good, always looking out for something more exciting, ect... Instead of working on what they have. Good luck.
2006-06-28 08:18:54 · answer #1 · answered by heidielizabeth69 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may not have told you she had moved on because she wasn't brave enough to. She waited for you to get fed up and leave her instead and that makes it easier for her to deal with the whole situation. She can save face in front of everyone by placing blame in your direction. Her job at the police department puts her in the public eye and along with police status comes a responsibility to maintain a certain type of character...being honest, strong, courageous, and an attitude of service. If she is suffering from depression also , sometimes depressed people tend to blame their problems on other people or can be dilusional about what the reality of their situation is not to mention desperate and irrational. The important thing is you will never know why she did what she did...only she cab tell you that...but the fact what you did was all that you could do and anyone who knows you will recognize your efforts and see through what has been said about you and in the end that's what counts. And since you seem to be a praying man...remember you reap what you sow. Weeping may endure for a night but joy cometh in the morning.
2006-06-28 08:22:11 · answer #2 · answered by missconduct 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, she wasn't thinking. For some reason, and I have no idea what that reason is, she decided to throw it all away with you for this other guy. Maybe he can do things you can't, maybe the way she feels with him is different. I don't know why, but I do know that unfortunately it happens. I don't think she could tell you because it is so hard to finally admitt that the person you are married to is not the person you want to be with. I think she was afraid for loosing everything and instead of trying to make things better with you, she pushed you away until you were finally the one to walk away. I am not condoning what she did or is for that matter continuing to do. However, I understand. As for the check forgery, that takes real b@lls to do that. I may hate my ex, but I would never in a million years think of doing that to him. And the fact that she works at the PD and has a working knowledge of what happens makes it even worse. I am sorry that you are going through this. However, things will get better. I hope you are able to keep a good relationship with her for the sake of your son. If you ever want to vent, drop me an email...
2006-06-28 08:43:27 · answer #3 · answered by la_diablita_1999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because she needs you as the fall back for now. She is unsure of her future, only thing she knows is that she wants something different. She is willing to betray the kids to make herself look good in the eyes of others.
She knows what she is and covering up as much as possible with any one she can use. Not just you and your child, but the people she wants to be with, that's the only way she can get support.
Take care of the kids the best you can.
2006-06-29 13:32:59 · answer #4 · answered by timer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why? Only your wife can answer that. All the explanations here won't help. Now is the time to ask HOW. How can I get through this? Continue to pray and go to counseling. It won't be easy. At this point you want to start figuring out how you can be a better father to your son. May God bless you and encourage you through this difficult time.
2006-06-28 08:28:28 · answer #5 · answered by ChampsElysee 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's too interested in thinking up ways to continue with her deception. Her goal is to make herself look good and make you the bad guy. You did the right thing in removing yourself from this situation. Instead of her trying to make things better, she continues to act the fool. More power to her, you're better off without her.
2006-06-28 08:12:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe she was mad.
2006-06-28 08:11:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋