Why do married women look for love from other men when they don't get enough Love and Affection from their husband?
I have a bestfriedn who has been married for 4 years since she was 18 now she is 22 , she had ason at 19, but she has been seeing another guy for almost a year now and I've always tried to tell her if she thinks she doesn't love her husband then they should seperate for a while or get a divorce...Before she got married and we were in High School I alwasy told her she was too young to get married and handle a responsibility like that ...But has you can see it didn't stop her? So why is that when married women have fights, or don't get enough Love and affection from their husband they look for it else where?
2006-06-28
07:39:27
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Her husband is 9 years older and is madly in LOVE with her but she says sh edoesn't feel the same way sh eused to in the beginning!
2006-06-28
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Well both men and women do this, so I dont think the answer lies in her being female. I do however think the institution of marriage has changed dramatically in the younger generations. The respect that held our grandparents marriages together through decades and whole life times, seems to be lost on the young. You are right that she was not ready and her actions prove this. She is most likely staying married while having an affair because of her son and immiturity might be making her feel like what she is doing is ok. I am not saying she should get a divorce, but I don't think it is at all healthy to continue on this way. Does her husband know about her being unfaithful? I hope the best for your friends marriage and that you are there for her in as healthy a way as you can. Tell her your thoughts delicately, but be ready to have her life spin out of control and her need to have a good friend by her side if she continues. God Bless.
2006-06-28 07:52:35
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answered by missesbean 3
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Being 19 when she got married has nothing to do with it, that is a cop out, I was 19 when I married my husband and now 14 years later I love him more and more everyday, so using the age is just a cop out in my opinion, there seems to be a communication problem with the couple along with other problem you may not be aware of, she is looking for something she feels is missing in her marraige and is looking for it with someone else, it is obvious she doesnt love her husband, but she will learn her lesson the hard way, all you can do is be her friend, which it seeme to me you are already doing all you can do, be there for her, hopefully she will see she is only going to end up hurting the people she loves the most, including herself.
2006-06-28 07:51:11
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answered by slf620 2
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You must deliver him a few credit score for being sincere. If he did not care approximately you he should not have instructed you. Still the predicament of him in need of to enjoy with an extra associate demands to be addressed. First you 2 ought to determine precisely why he thinks he demands this. Is it interest, probably he thinks he's lacking out on anything. Have you viewed a threesome? Maybe he does no longer desire you worried within the enjoy. It surely is a complicated drawback that ought to be resolved by some means. I might be a bit worried if the person I adored desired to head enjoy different intercourse companions. All tho this is a bit one-of-a-kind that you simply 2 have most effective been with each and every different. His honesty approximately his emotions is honorable so long as he's being wholly sincere. I propose marriage counseling. Good Luck
2016-08-31 09:09:49
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answered by Anonymous
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In the case of your friend she got married too young. I think it should be illegal for people to get married before age 25, they are just not mature enough. This was probably the only relationship that either one of them had and it was probably just infatuation. Then to further screw up their lives they had a kid. If you got each of them to talk truthfully they would tell you that it was all a big mistake. Now their lives are a mess and probably will continue that way. They will most likely end up in a divorce, he will pay years of child support, she will find out that most guys only want her for a one-night stand and not marry someone else's problem.
Not a very pleasant outlook for either. The real reason people go outside their marriage is that they are not getting the love they want from their spouse. You need to be more mature, understand your own feelings and know your partner before you embark on marriage, otherwise you are just setting up yourself for failure.
2006-06-28 07:57:02
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answered by Plano G 1
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this is really typical, same thing goes with the married man, if they can't get love and affection they also look somewhere else, I guess it is just our human nature to be this way. If we cant get what we want and need from someone who always look for ways to satisfy it, that is asking someone else who can do it. You see it is not love that drove them to marry at an early age, it is just plain and simple passion for each other, both not being ready to accept responsibility and this is why this situation now appears...
2006-06-28 07:48:12
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answered by Rb 1
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The problem with your friend is that she was not in love to begin with in her first marriage. She was too young, she thought sex was love. It is the most common problem when teenagers get married.
2006-06-28 07:46:13
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answered by freddy0904 2
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marriage should be taken seriously. It is a serious commitment to another person. I t should not be desecrated. people should not rush in and out of it. if you are in it then make it work. No one forced you, right? so why make a mockery of this institution of marriage? But if it doesn't work make a clean break of it. No pussy footing around. Just heard footsteps behind me. was that you?
2006-06-28 07:50:08
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answered by X factor 2
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Well, your friend was young when she got married. Besides, she's in this generation that doesn't believe in God. If she believes, truly believes that God exist, she'll be terrifed to do such things.
2006-06-28 07:46:41
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answered by Anonymous
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