2006-06-28 07:33:35 · 15 answers · asked by ALICE C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You see it as butting in, they see it as helping; or in some cases there are some people that think they know it all and they were like this before they became grandparents. Talk to your parents about this. They may be use to it and don't see this as a bother. If the folks won't help, try talking to the grandparents. Unless your grandparents are very understanding and not opinionated (yeah fat chance right) you're stuck. Anyway you won't know until you try. I rather fail at trying then to fail by doing absolutely nothing at all.
2006-06-28 07:43:36 · answer #1 · answered by c.nolan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Butt 'em out!! Grandparents, who can be good on many occasions, can be a royal pain-in-the-proverbial-***, so, since they're not God, tell 'em so and get them out!! However straightforward you are about it will measure the degree of success you have, so, you can be mealy-mouth about it and still have them on your butt, or you can stand tall and tell 'em straight. They might think you're a mean old daughter-in-law, if that be the relationship, but all victories come at a cost. God Bless you.
2006-06-28 07:39:57 · answer #2 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing to do is to politely remind them to mind their own business If this doesn't work, just learn to ignore them when they try to butt in. There is no sense in starting a huge argument over something so small.
2006-06-28 07:37:08 · answer #3 · answered by Loren J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to their advice they've been around alot longer than you. Maybe they know what they're talking about. If you sternly feel they are wrong then do what you feel is right in your gut but don't hurt their feelings. I lost a grandmother a few yrs ago & my grandfather a month ago & I would give anything for them to be butting into my life again. Cherish them while you can. Best wishes & God bless.
2006-06-28 08:52:19 · answer #4 · answered by Sugar Dumplin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a grandparent, you might just learn something important in your life because we as grandparents have been there and done that , so just let them have their say and you may be surprised at how much you might learn.
2006-06-28 07:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by buddy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell mine that hello I'm 12 years old when I'm like changing they sometI'mes walk in on me so i say uh HELLO im changing knock!!!!Gosh!!So then when that works and then they say i like secrets i say hello all my secrets stay with me and my peeps.So then they leave me alone.Its not really mean to say its just that grandparents just think its so weird that their babies are growing up and they remember how you always were telling them secrets and then all of that stopped.So be nice and don't say it in a mean way just say it so they understand.
2006-06-28 07:51:00 · answer #6 · answered by CoCo_Chic Babe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be gentle, and stop revealing so much about your life that they can give an opinion on. They love you and just don't want you making the same mistakes they did. Just smile and nod and don't give them so much to work with as far as what's going on in your life and all. Good Luck!
2006-06-28 07:36:22 · answer #7 · answered by lilmama 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let them know that they had the chance to raise their own kids and they did a great job but that now it's your turn to raise your own. And that if you ever need any help you will gladly ask for their advise.
2006-06-28 07:36:17 · answer #8 · answered by marisanj 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them thank you for your advice but you need to make this decision on your own. Keep doing that till they get sick of butting in. It'll work.
2006-06-28 07:36:24 · answer #9 · answered by lnajordan 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell them you appreciate the fact that they are trying to help.
The child is yours. It is your decision in the end. You are the parent.
2006-06-28 07:36:39 · answer #10 · answered by tbug 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋