Ok let me tell you more.
I've known him and his family for 15yrs. since 2nd grade Im 23yrs old. When he was about 12 his mother left him and his 6 brothers and sisters for a man. they all got split up and tost around. and when his mother came back 2yrs later she had aids. so he has trust issues. the only stable thing in his life is his grandma. I know that is not an excuse but i thought you should know.
Well right now we live with my mom because i was paying off some debt and plan on buying a house so i don't want to get into a year lease. And believe me i have told him that i don't like the way he treats me, i give him examples and all. I have even told him to leave, pack his s*hit and get out of my house. But he thinks its a joke, ha ha you better tell me his name first. And i tell him I have no name to tell you. It is very complicated. This weekend is his birthday. should i wait till next weekend? If i do it on a weekday he will show up at my work and i don't want that. thx
2006-06-28 07:29:08 · 5 answers · asked by dido45dido 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Honey, everybody has issues, fears and traumatic situations. You don't need to keep him just because you pity him. He too will have the skills to cope and move on, but he is an adult and you are not responsible for him.
Give him a 30 eviction notice. Tell him that is your mother's house and that he is no longer welcome there, Tell him that if he doesn't comply, you will get the sheriff Department involved for tresspassing. tell him not to harrass you at work or otherwise you will seek a Restraining Order agains him and that you don't want to do that but want him to part peacefully.
Change the locks of your house.
Good luck
2006-06-28 07:36:29 · answer #1 · answered by Blunt 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's wrong with right now. Pack his stuff up and have it waiting for him on the front porch. Then he'll know you are serious. Call the police if he shows up at your work. Don't continue to live in all this crap. Waiting and planning has already been done. Just stop living a lie. He knows whats what. He just been bullying you around and getting away with it. FInd your self respect, stand up for yourself, and god knows, your mother cause she lives there too, and get rid of the creep. NOW.
2006-06-28 08:14:40 · answer #2 · answered by c.nolan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust issues or not...his behavior is unacceptable. It sounds like you already know what you are going to do about your situation, so...weekday or weekend...it really doesn't matter. If you think that he will show up to your job on a weekday, what makes you think he won't wait until the weekend is over to show up on Monday?? However, bad news on a birthday is cruel, even if he is a jerk.
2006-06-28 07:47:15 · answer #3 · answered by mitanbarr 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately this will end ugly. But you will have to be firm with him. Give him a date to move out, if by then he has not, then pack his stuff and neatly put it in the garage or outside. If he does not comply, then you will have to get family/friends or ultimately the police involved.
Sorry, there is no other way to put it... But you do need to get him out one way or another.
I would give him the notice ASAP, its a bummer that it will fall on his birthday, but he brought it to himself. If you are really concerned about him showing up to your job, I'd recommend notifying security at your job...
2006-06-28 07:43:39 · answer #4 · answered by Milkywayman22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
pak his stuff for him when he gets to ur house say leave and if he doesnt throw his stuff out and if he still aint drove off by the than call the police and get him 4 tresspasssing.
2006-06-28 07:34:38 · answer #5 · answered by lil' mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋