My wife and I just finalized our divorce last week. It was a mutually thing. We were friends for years then just decided to get married. There were never any hard words between us. In fact I still hang out with her and her new boyfriend. What i want to know is when should i start dating again? From people who have been in my position.
2006-06-28 07:21:25 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
i have been divorced for 7 years now and am just now wanting to get my feet wet so it all just depends on the person
you will know when you are ready to date again
2006-06-28 07:24:08 · answer #1 · answered by JULIE 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree w/wemimo. Unfortunately, I'm going through divorce. Sucks. Hate it. I'm also going through therapy b/c I've never experienced such pain and don't know what to do. My therapist said generally a person needs to understand why the marriage ended/failed in the first place. Then the person needs to understand themselves and rebuild themselves as an autonomous person whos is capable of loving another in a healthy way, not repeating what happened in the previous marriage. And in my case, where I'm a father of two, I need to also concentrate on my relationship with them so as to not repeat or pass on "bad habits". It's a tough and rough journey. I'm not going to blow sunshine. But everyone is different. Hell, I met someone two nights ago that turned my head. But it's the wrong time. I'm still hurting inside and the only thing I would have to offer in a new relationship is that pain and drama. I have to come to grips about that chapter ending no matter how it ended.
Good luck and wish you a peaceful journey.
2006-06-28 08:27:45 · answer #2 · answered by ntoriano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you are ready. It's a process that you go thru mentally and emotionally. It's different for everyone. I was divorced back in 2001 and just started dating last year. I had to get myself together and come to a place where I felt I had something to offer a relationship and forget the past. Don't let any one rush you into getting back out there! Good Luck!
2006-06-28 07:36:15 · answer #3 · answered by carmelbrown2001 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I waited 3 years, but I had children aged 7 and 9. I wanted to stand on my own for a while before I got involved again and give the kids a chance to adjust. If you have no hard feelings and no kids, I say start dating right away. Have fun.
2006-06-28 07:27:14 · answer #4 · answered by Christina 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take time to recover from the separation. Let your system understand that that chapter is closed, so limit your outing with her and her boyfriends. Go about your normal life. Keep yourself happy with the goals you set and those you achieve. Discover the you within. In that process or just casually you will come across someone that will 'turn you on' You are not a failure because one relationship did not work. It does not sound like you have children, otherwise it would have been a good opportunity to discover who they are and appreciate them. That companionship would be therapeutic both ways.Soak yourself in life. Enjoy outings in a group if you are reluctant to date. Live.
2006-06-28 07:49:31 · answer #5 · answered by wemimo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play it by ear if you meet someone and want to go out on a date go out take it slow play the field don;t settle right down enjoy the single life a little bit.
2006-06-28 07:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by 4X4 Woman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
get a handle on marriage first. it's not dating, it's a commitment. it's not something you do because you have nothing else to do. it's a life long commitment you make to someone, not just anyone, but someone you spend the rest of your life with. don't say forever, if you don't mean it. you will never know the future, but you can be responsible for your own actions. it may not be great forever, but if your worried, dont make the promise.
2006-06-28 07:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by Rhonda S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play the field! Obcourse no strings attached and dont fall to head over heals for something that might only be a fling
2006-06-28 07:50:28 · answer #8 · answered by FLORIDA 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As soon as you feel ready, go for it! There is no rule carved in stone here. It is a personal decision.
2006-06-28 07:25:00 · answer #9 · answered by Okkieneko 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds as though you are comfortable enough in your relationship with her to start dating whenever you want.
2006-06-28 07:38:47 · answer #10 · answered by blueskies7890 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋